Journey To Bliss

Everyone needs alone time - not just your introvert friends!

I know not all of us LIKE spending time alone - but all of us NEED some regular alone time.

And check out all the epic perks of spending time alone. Who doesn’t want to know themselves and trust themselves more? Who doesn’t want to feel centered and grounded?

I’d argue that prioritizing time alone is one of the key contributors to living a life that feels good - without it, we lose access to this sacred, deeper connection to ourselves.

And when we lose that connection, we lose our way.

My hope is that this can be a space where you can learn how to and be inspired to spend more quality time with you, yourself and you.

Because after all, you shouldn’t be enjoying yourself ONLY when you’re with other people. Enjoying the time you spend alone means MORE happiness in life, MORE contentedness, MORE peace.

➡️If you’re someone struggling to enjoy spending time alone, scroll on down to my post from March 13th to find 14 ways to spend quality time with yourself.

➡️If you know your relationship with yourself has taken a hit and you want to work with a life coach to get it back and build a relationship with yourself that’s better than ever before, you’re in the right place. Send me a dm at to find out more!

Do you put pressure on yourself to be in a certain stage of life by a certain time?

Do you compare your life to the lives of your friends or the people you see on social media?

If so, these affirmations are for you.

And if these affirmation speak to you, then you’re going to want to know that the waitlist for The Life By Design Blueprint - my 90 day 1:1 life coaching program designed to get your life back on track - is OPEN!

If you want to spend the next 3 months deeply getting to know yourself, trust yourself and redesigning your present + your future, get your name on the waitlist at the link in my bio.

We start in April!

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I wish I could do what you do, but there’s no way I could do it alone. You’re so brave.

I’ve heard this countless times since choosing to live the life that I have so far. As soon as I turned 18, I was off ✈️

Shy, scared, crying on the plane. I didn’t feel brave. But I was ON the plane 🙌🏼 and I stayed on the plane. And the plane touched down in Dublin and I had no idea my life and the person I was would never be the same again.

Whether you want to backpack Europe solo, study abroad on a tropical island, get a work visa for Australia, hit the Southeast Asia backpacker trail, explore a town 3 hours away for the weekend or even go on a day trip to a cool place near you AND you feel nervous, scared, uncertain or struggle with anxiety: this post is for you.

I’m sharing practical tips + suggestions based on what’s worked to help me travel to over 23 countries as a solo female who struggles with social anxiety but also wants to experience travel moments with other travelers rather than just myself all the time.

Because even when it’s scary, it’s worth it.

If I had stayed back in my hometown because I was too afraid to go alone, I never would have left.

If I had waited until a friend could join me, I’d still be there. Because in the last 11 years, that’s only happened once or twice - time, money, jobs, it just never seems to align with others.

And so I did it anyways. I did it scared. And you can, too.

Here’s the thing: if you have a dream of seeing the world, you can’t wait. You can’t let that dream be dependent on someone else because if you do, you may never get to experience it.

Heck, it doesn’t matter what dream you have, travel related or not: don’t let it be dependent on someone else. It’s YOUR dream.

Let yourself live it.

Let’s talk MONEY 🤑

Specifically, money mindset + your relationship with money.

Let’s face it, money isn’t everything but it does help and it’s a massive part of how the world works.

How you think about money, how you feel about money and how you use money is going to shape the experience you have with money.

Your relationship with money can either support you or add stress into your life.

These have been some of my favorite affirmations to shift + strengthen your money mindset.

Which one do you connect with most?

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You spend more of your life with YOURSELF than any other person.

Wouldn’t you want that experience to be a good one?

I've been working with a lot of my clients lately on the idea of being in relationship with yourself. For most, it's a pretty foreign concept. We understand how to be in relationship with the people in our lives - our partner, our family, our friends.

But ourselves? Not so much.

If you're seeking a deeper understanding and stronger relationship with yourself, start here:

1️⃣ Spend time reflecting through journaling or silent reflection

2️⃣ Start spending quality time with yourself doing things that you enjoy

3️⃣ Speak to yourself like you would a friend

4️⃣ Show up yourself + the things you tell yourself you're going to do

You deserve to spend a lifetime with the friend inside you, not the bully.

What other life coaches don’t want you to know 👀

You can just live - without always obsessing over your personal development, without always obsessing over what everyone else thinks, without always needing some huge goal to have a sense of purpose.

I love self care + personal development + talking about our ~feelings~ but I also know that sometimes, it can all feel overwhelming.

So in case you’re currently finding yourself just not interested in striving for a goal, deconstructing your belief systems or reading another self help book - you don’t have to!

You get to just BE.

It’s ok to just focus on what you’re doing right now without running through your mental to do list.

You’re allowed to stop multitasking all the time and do just one thing.

Growth, transformation, healing - it’s easy to think they’re things we should always be doing if we want to be our “best self”.

But that’s not true. There are times for healing. There are times for growth. There are times for transformation. There are times for working hard. There are times for rest. There are times for play.

Stop trying to do it all, all the time.

If you don’t, there will come a time where you hit a wall + all the things you’ve been doing to better yourself + create your dream life will feel too much, too constant, too exhausting.

This doesn’t mean you’re failing, falling behind or falling into old habits.

It just IS. Use that time to stop over analyzing every little bit of your life and just let yourself be for a while.

After all, you’ve worked hard to get here. Enjoy it!

“That’s not very realistic”
“Don’t get your hopes up”
“Have a backup plan”

In much of my 20s I was told that my goals and dreams were unrealistic.

I quickly learned that a lot of people put limitations on what they think they can experience in life - and so they never do experience anything greater than what they have.

Turns out, proving people wrong is a good motivator for me + I’m happy to report I achieved every ✔️ single ✔️ one ✔️ of those unrealistic goals.

But there’s always the moments where I’m not inspired, or the doubts of others creep in, and I start to question everything.

In those times, I try not to get too focused on the lives of others (hello, comparison!)

Instead, I look to myself.

Whenever I need a hit of inspiration or assurance that I can do this, I look through my old travel journals, Instagram posts and photos from times in my life where I felt my absolute best.

And it works.

Instead of always looking outward for your inspiration, your motivation, your ambition, your consistency, start looking to yourself.

Easier said than done, I know. But learning how to be inspired by your own self + the life you’re living starts with building a loving, trusting, fun, expansive relationship with yourself.

That’s why the Life By Design Blueprint was created - to guide you back to yourself. Or, for some, to finally meet themselves for the first time - away from all the noise and expectations and assumptions from others.

If you’re ready to say yes to you for 3 months and step into the new year with a stronger relationship with yourself, the Blueprint is calling your name + ready to welcome you home with open arms.

A practice to help you manifest your dreams and reach your goals 💫

For any big goal I’ve set for myself I’ve practiced almost daily visualization of 20-30 minutes, letting my mind and imagination run as free + wild as it likes.

Watching clips of the life I was envisioning for myself and of the person I aspire to be, almost as if I were watching clips from a movie.

The practice of visualizing your goals can help keep you excited, motivated, determined and consistent.

The more you do this, the clearer your vision gets, the less scary it seems and everything starts to feel more and more possible.

It doesn’t matter what your goal is - visualization can not only help you bring it to life but can help you to work through any of your nervous "what ifs".

Even as little as a few minutes a day can create massive impact 🙌🏼

A reminder: who you are now and the life you’re living now is worthy of your love. ⁣
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I talk a lot about personal growth, ambition and stepping into a version of yourself that you love. But I never want that to make you think that the person you are right now isn’t just as awesome as the person you're striving to be.
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You are you, no matter what stage of life you’re in. No matter if you’re living your best life already or if you’ve hit your lowest low.

Even if you’re actively trying to change things, even if there are bits you don’t appreciate. You are worthy of love and joy 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴. ⁣
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So take a minute to love on yourself a little.

Remind yourself of how amazing you are.

Pay special attention to the very things that challenge you the most and love them extra.

Can habits help you trust yourself?

I consider habits to be like promises to yourself. When you tell yourself you’re going to do something and you don’t, you’re breaking that promise.

Eventually, all those little broken promises start adding up + before you know it you've stopped believing in yourself and started doubting yourself instead.

Like a friend who always bails, you start to EXPECT yourself not to follow through.

You stop trusting yourself.

And when you stop trusting in yourself, it becomes hard to make decisions. You start to feel really unsure. You hesitate. You overthink. You ask for the opinions of everyone else around you and question your own.

You don’t trust yourself to be able to make the right decision.

If this starts happening too often, you begin to lose yourself/your sense of self.

Maybe that’s where you’re at right now - a little lost and disconnected from yourself and what you want - and that's okay. It might feel impossible, but it's not.

If you're trying to find your way back to yourself or repair your relationship with yourself, start to tune into your habits (or lack of) and choose one habit that you're committed to showing up for.

Get that habit in your calendar and start showing up for yourself like you'd show up for your friends. You’re worth your time as much as they are ♥️

How often do you sit down with yourself + spend time turning inwards?

Self reflection is the bridge towards self awareness - but it can be hard to do if you’re used to looking to everyone and everything around you to help you figure things out.

This week schedule in some time to be with yourself.

You can do this through a self care practice like:

✍🏼 journaling
🛁 a bath
🧘🏻‍♀️ meditation
🥘 a solo dinner date
🧺 a solo sunset picnic
👟 a walk outside
💫 an intention setting practice
🌊 time in nature

…. or anything else you enjoy.

I’d encourage you to ditch the distractions - no book, no phone, no music, no podcast, no movie, no technology in general.

Just you and your own company.