16/08/2026
When you spend your childhood making real choices, discovering what you love, and having your thoughts and opinions taken seriously, you build a pretty strong sense of who you are along the way.
That's something I've really noticed with my unschooled teens. Of course they're still growing and changing, but they know themselves. They haven't suddenly reached adolescence and needed to discover who they are. They never lost that connection with themselves in the first place.
A lot of "finding yourself" comes from spending childhood following someone else's direction. If you've spent years being told what to learn, where to be, what success looks like and what you should be working towards, at some point you have to ask: What do I actually want? Who am I?
If you've had ownership over your life all along, you've spent childhood becoming yourself already.