25/08/2026
We all know what relationship red flags look like.
But what about financial red flags?
You don’t know what you own or owe as a couple - you couldn’t confidently list your mortgages, loans, credit cards, investments, super or major assets.
You don’t have access to joint accounts or financial documents, or your partner holds all the passwords and controls the banking.
You are discouraged from asking questions or made to feel stupid, difficult or “bad with money” when you do.
You have to ask permission to spend money, particularly your own income, while your partner’s spending isn’t subject to the same scrutiny.
There’s nothing wrong with one person taking the lead on managing the household finances, but both partners should have visibility.
Delegating the finances should never mean surrendering your financial knowledge or independence
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