01/06/2026
One of the biggest misconceptions about emotional regulation is that emotionally regulated people don’t get triggered.
Wrong 😂
Emotionally regulated people STILL:
• get frustrated,
• feel hurt,
• feel overwhelmed,
• get emotionally activated,
• and have moments where they want to launch their phone into the ocean after reading a text message.
The difference is:
they know how to return to themselves faster.
A dysregulated nervous system reacts QUICKLY because its job is protection.
So when your body perceives:
• rejection,
• criticism,
• uncertainty,
• silence,
• conflict,
• feeling ignored,
• or lack of control…
…it reacts like danger is happening NOW.
That’s why emotional spirals can feel so consuming.
Your body is trying to protect you before your logical brain even catches up.
This is why overthinking rarely fixes emotional reactivity.
Because you cannot “logic” your way out of a nervous system response while your body still feels unsafe.
The body always comes first.
And most women were never taught how to:
• pause,
• regulate,
• slow down,
• process emotions,
• or create internal safety.
Instead they learnt to:
• suppress,
• push through,
• overthink,
• people please,
• overanalyse,
• or emotionally explode after holding too much for too long.
Emotional regulation is not becoming emotionless.
It’s learning how to stay connected to yourself while emotions move THROUGH you instead of completely taking over you.
And honestly?
That skill changes every area of your life:
• relationships,
• parenting,
• confidence,
• communication,
• boundaries,
• stress,
• and self-worth.
Save this post for the next time your nervous system starts writing dramatic fictional stories from a 2-word text reply 😂
22/05/2026
Just like that…. We are back in a small box on wheels.
Peace✌🏻 out Atherton and the tablelands, it’s been unreal!
What was just Christmas with the bestie, turned into 6months in this gorgeous spot.
Quality time with my soul sista Megan and her gorgeous fam.
Adventures, massive family milestones and big decisions, international travel, a surprise trip home
Camping in a real house had its comforts especially during the wet season 🤣
But now it’s time to mosey on south along the east coast and keep this lap a lappin.
So so grateful for how things have played out for us. Living on the road ain’t always easy… but if you choose to believe…. The universe always has your back!!!
Stay tuned for more adventures dickin around aus 🎉🔥
19/05/2026
No longer anxious - but also not feeling.... much.
Flat. Numb. Emotionally offline. Going through the days without really inhabiting them. Doing all the things, work, parenting, relationships, the whole lot — while feeling strangely disconnected from all of it.
Most people in this state might think they're doing better because they arnt feeling anxiety, the panic attacks aren't happening. They're not crying in the car anymore.
But this is not recovery. This is your nervous system running out of gas.
Your nervous system operates on a hierarchy of responses known as the polyvagal ladder. When you're safe and regulated, you're in what's called social engagement mode - connected, curious, creative, emotionally available.
When you're stressed, you activate fight or flight - the anxiety, the racing thoughts, the overwhelm you know so well.
But when fight or flight has run on too long and resources run dry, your body drops into something called the dorsal vagal shutdown state. This is the flatness. The numbness. The going-through-the-motions.
It's your nervous system's last-resort protection mechanism. When it can't fight or flee anymore, it freezes. It numbs out. It conserves what little energy is left.
This is not calm. Calm is alive. Calm has access to joy, connection, excitement. Shutdown is just... absence.
If you've been chronically stressed for years and most women I work with have been, you might be closer to this state than you realise.
The slow build from overwhelmed to anxious to numb is so gradual it's almost impossible to spot from the inside. You just notice that nothing feels quite as sharp or alive as it used to.
The road back isn't as long as you think either.
Have you been here before? I have. Its a great opportunity to reignite your sense of self, but its tough to go it alone.
Drop ME below if you don't know where to start