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Be A Life Creator A passion for guiding others to break cycles and patterns in life that can make us feel trapped or stuck. You are the only one who can make the change.

I share what I have learnt as a counsellor and what I know from my personal journey.

17/08/2026

Parenting, most of us parent the way we were parented. However parenting in my era was about providing food, shelter and survival. Some called it hard love but I understood my parents childhood journey and trauma which led to them not being emotionally available because they had no parents to role model the same. As a parent I was reflective but this parenting style I inherited did not prepare me for the world. My nervous system found familiar trauma bond. I thought it was love. People pleasing because you were taught to be a good girl which meant I was too nice, no boundaries. I had to unlearn and relearn boundaries, assertiveness and made sure that my children never questioned my love for them the way I did growing up. I tried my best to keep them safe but not always successful. I would use some of those DV situations that my children witnessed as teaching moments because I did not want my sons and daughters to think this was normal. I taught my sons to respect women like you respect your sisters. Parenting while in a DV cycle was not easy but I did the best I could under such coercive conditions. Parenting, we role model what a safe, respectful relationship looks, sounds and feels like is not straight forward for all families. So do the inner work , reflect and tweak your parenting attachment style so the cycle does not continue. Need help check out my digital resources to guide step by step. Janelle Bassani Be A Life Creator

16/08/2026

Catch ups with a wide variety of friends. 🥳🥰

16/08/2026

What a great night. Catching up with a wide variety of good people. Lots of laughs and wishing Chan all the best on her next chapter.

15/08/2026

Dreams become visions with goals to inspire actions. Actions get results.

15/08/2026

If we didn’t dream we would not have created so much in this world. Dreams are where visions come from. To reach that vision we create a plan of goals working towards that vision. But for the dream and vision to become a reality we must take action. One step at a time. Learning, up skilling, building confidence, resilience to achieve and pushing through until we see the next opportunity show up and it will because life is about living not standing still. Be A Life Creator Janelle Bassani

14/08/2026

Parenting , getting that balance right. Not too mean causing fear or not too weak , pushover with no boundaries. Routines. Say yes to everything they want creates false expectations of entitlement and they expect every other relationship to follow this . Sounds like the beginning of DV behaviour , doesn’t it? Janelle Bassani Be A Life Creator

14/08/2026

Parenting , we are never taught that our own triggers, if not managed or dealt with can be transferred . Example if you are an anxious person children subconsciously transfer this pattern of anxiety. So how do we parent ? We heal and manage our triggers. Parenting with a safe attachment. It’s a balance between not being too mean to the extent that the child fears you but also not too weak , with no boundaries, giving into all those yeses. Yes you can have what ever you want. That can create the start of a child expecting every adult in his life says yes or else. Imagine the behaviour that would develop overtime. Their first intimate relationship , they would have the same expectations of you say yes because that is what was role modeled to me. Does this sound like DV to you? Certainly does ? So let’s build connection, trust, boundaries, routine with consistency. Give these little people a great head start. Janelle Bassani

13/08/2026

We always have choices in life. Choice to change or stay the same. When we choose change, we build skills and confidence with every new challenge we complete. Celebrate those little wins along the way. We can do this with our parenting and relationships too.

13/08/2026

A reset with nature.

13/08/2026

Nature is medicine. I love how nature makes me feel when I slow down and take time to notice with our senses help our nervous system reset. Enjoy the scenery.

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