Dr. Simon Bobo

You don't just marry one person once. Over the course of a marriage, you may meet five or more versions of the same person. People grow, change, heal, struggle, mature, and reinvent themselves. Many marriages fail not because people married the wrong person, but because they were unprepared for the different versions of their spouse that life would reveal

There is no Marriage STANDING today that never had a chance to BREAK. And there is no marriage that BROKE that never had a chance to SURVIVE.

Yooo 😱😱😱

𝐖𝐄 𝐃𝐈𝐃 𝐈𝐍𝐓𝐑𝐎𝐃𝐔𝐂𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒 𝐁𝐔𝐓 𝐒𝐇𝐄 𝐈𝐒 𝐂𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐖𝐈𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐄𝐑 𝐄𝐗🙆

𝐃𝐄𝐀𝐑 𝐃𝐑. 𝐒𝐈𝐌𝐎𝐍

Please hide my name. I am 30 and my fiancée is 29. We are supposed to get married in December this year. Everything was kinda fine you know the holdiay of April last month at a vacation I saw one night her phone kept vibrating after midnight. I normally don’t check her phone, but something felt strange coz that call kept calling and she was bathing that time around 10pm. I eventually looked coz although I don't have her password I know she uses same password for almost her gadgets and I tried the laptop password which I had and it did work on the phone to my shock I discovered she has been texting her ex-boyfriend almost every night for months. The messages were emotional, flirtatious, and full of memories about their past relationship and the rounds of s*x they used to have it really broke me down to the extend I stormed out of the room because I didn't trust myself I felt I could maybe do bad things. They had to look for me with the security team and eventually found me. I just acted like I needed some space and fresh air. In the morning I eventually spoke as I had made up my mind not to be violent and lose my future as I kept getting those thoughts. When I confronted her, she cried and said it was just emotional closure and that nothing physical happened wara wara but aint buying it. Isn't emotional closure whatever it is also cheating, for me it's cheating. I can tell I love her but I can't move past this issue. I drove from the vacation and dropped her and I was just quite and I have been mute since. She is sending almost everyone she knows I respect or is close to me to forgive her and anything I want to hold feel safe and hold her accountable she is willing to do etc. We did introductions etc but ah man this is hard to forget. Honestly, Doc, should a young man like me still marry a woman whose heart seems attached to someone else which is what I feel? I can't move past the s*x conversations they had and the positions and styles which she has never told me she likes like how she was saying in those smses. Please help me a part of me wants to forgive she sounds genuine in her plea for forgiveness but a part of me feels it might never work

𝐎𝐍𝐋𝐘 𝐖𝐇𝐄𝐍 𝐇𝐄 𝐖𝐀𝐍𝐓𝐒 𝐒𝐄𝐗 𝐇𝐄 𝐂𝐀𝐋𝐋𝐒 𝐌𝐄😱

𝐃𝐄𝐀𝐑 𝐃𝐑. 𝐒𝐈𝐌𝐎𝐍

Please hide my ID. I'm 27 and boyfriend is 40. We both not married. I love him so much cause he is mature and knows how to treat a woman. We have been dating for 4 years now. But this years things are not the same. He hardly shows the committment he was showing these past years if I don't initiate anything he wont he can go quite for a whole week and it's starting to affect me emotionally, only when he wants s*x he will be calling and after s*x he will ghost me suddenly I can't visit him only him visit me. He said he needs some space and prefers coming to me for now. He is paying my rent and everything I need but it was not for that in case people want to comment that it was s*x and money. No its actually a relationship and I have always been to his place. He is single and was married before but got divorced when he was 34 and he said he wanted to take his time before marrying again and I'm young in no rush to marry either. I have not gotten any clue that there is something going on but I'm not sure cause each time I call him he picks anytime like how it has been. He told me last week he is just going through some personal issues but he is not opening up for 3 months now and we are drifting. I really don't know, he spoke of marrying me last year but now he is mute about it.

Knowledge is knowing what to do. Wisdom is knowing when to do it. You need both. In relationships, knowledge is knowing that communication, loyalty, respect, and emotional support are important for a healthy relationship. Wisdom is knowing when to speak, when to stay quiet, when to apologize, and when to walk away from a toxic situation even when you still love the person.

𝐆𝐎 𝐀𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐃 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐌𝐀𝐑𝐑𝐘 𝐁𝐔𝐓 𝐖𝐄 𝐒𝐇𝐀𝐋𝐋 𝐒𝐄𝐄😱

𝐃𝐄𝐀𝐑 𝐃𝐑. 𝐒𝐈𝐌𝐎𝐍

Please hide my ID. I'M 30F and boyfriend is 35. We have been dating for 2 years and he wants to marry me and I also feel I'm ready. Everything is fine but I don't want my father to be involved in the marriage process because he was an absent father and abusive to me, my mum and my siblings. They eventually divorced and he wasn't even consisten in providing for us. Mind you I'm the first born and we really don't have a relationship. My boyfriend is insisting we visit him and I don't want at all. I feel he doesn't understand the pain I have in my heart he comes from a loving home and me I don't know that life. So instead I went to see my uncle from my mums side who was very supporting to us and I want him to hand me over. My father head about this and said since your mums brother (my uncle) is your father you can go ahead, he said wont be attending the wedding but we shall see, you won't humiliate me and it ends there, now imagine I told my boyfriend about it instead of standing by me to support me he wants to withdraw because k**a he is scared of witchcraft or his life going bad since my father threatened so. He wants that solved or cleared before moving on...I really don't know me I will never call this my absent father never, he was not there in my life... what should I do really please, the lobola at my uncles place are due next month?.

𝐈 𝐇𝐀𝐓𝐄 𝐌𝐘 𝐁𝐎𝐘𝐅𝐑𝐈𝐄𝐍𝐃 𝐁𝐔𝐓 𝐈 𝐋𝐎𝐕𝐄 𝐇𝐈𝐌🤔

𝐃𝐄𝐀𝐑 𝐃𝐑. 𝐒𝐈𝐌𝐎𝐍

Please hide my ID. I'm 28F and boyfriend is 32. We have been dating for 3 years. He is such a loving guy I met him after a terrible heartbreak that left me nearly close to su***de. My problem is he has plans to marry me but sometimes i really just behave so so bad I don't know what comes over me I will be so rude and speak badly to him yet he continues to love me and that makes me love him more cause he understands my challenges, sometimes when I'm angry with him I refer to what the other guy did to me and I start saying "men are just the same''. Yet he will apologize for what he didnt do wrong, I usually apoligize after few days about anything I have done. So last week, we argued over me not picking his calls as I was really just emotional and my periods made it worse, his last text on wednesday last week he siad, "I have been patient but I'm no sure if I can keep up". He hasnt texted me and I have also been quite but I'm missing him a lot and I don't know I love him and sometimes hate him for no reason please help me i dont want to lose him

𝐈'𝐌 𝐌𝐀𝐑𝐑𝐈𝐄𝐃 𝐁𝐔𝐓 𝐒𝐎𝐔𝐋𝐓𝐈𝐄𝐃 𝐓𝐎 𝐌𝐘 𝐄𝐗 𝐁𝐎𝐘𝐅𝐑𝐈𝐄𝐍𝐃

𝐃𝐄𝐀𝐑 𝐃𝐑. 𝐒𝐈𝐌𝐎𝐍

Please hide my Id. I'm 31yr old and my hubby is 33. We got married last year after 1 year of dating. I feel having married him I realised he is just a rebound, my ex boyfriend ticked all the boxes for the man i would love to call my husband its just that he has women issues. My husband is just good provider but other areas he falls short like s*x, masculinity and even the confidence I used to have around my ex boyfriend. I find myself thinking of him all the time. To be honest with you Doc I'm sleeping with him and I can't stop I have tried, I believe I'm soultied but unfortunately I can't be with him. Any help to break this soultie I'm starting not to like my husband I don't treat him the way he deserves and I feel very bad. Please help me.

𝐒𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐋𝐃 𝐈 𝐓𝐀𝐊𝐄 𝐌𝐘 𝐄𝐗 𝐁𝐀𝐂𝐊🤔

𝐃𝐄𝐀𝐑 𝐃𝐑. 𝐒𝐈𝐌𝐎𝐍

Please hide my ID. I'm 32 and I have one child with my ex boyfriend and she is 2years old. We dated for 4 years and I got pregnant and two years in the relationship, my ex cheated on me, emotionally abused me, and left me when I was at my lowest and pregnant with his daughter. Called me fat and it was even pregnant fat but it affected me. It took me a long time to heal and rebuild myself. I have managed to rebuild myself, lost that weight even and I believe I'm glowing and doing better financially as well of which he always thought I'm with him for his money which wasn't the case, he always try to use money on everything yet all I wanted was a meaningful relationship leading to something bigger. He has been involved in his daughter's life but I never allowed any access to me after breaking up and I have not physically seen him in over a year. But last year he bumped into me last year at the airport and I was looking great and he stopped me started apologizing and tried to change my ticket to business where he was of which I declined. Then he started bombarding me with messages of apology and telling me I'm so beautiful Satan came to destroy us etc. Suddenly I'm not fat, and wants me back. I'm confused I'm not in a relationship but I think I still have feeling for him but I'm worried about the whole cheating things which I believe he struggles with. I don't know if I should take him back please help me.