Parenting Moments

”NO!”
We often say this to our children.

No to putting unsafe things in their mouth. No to eating another sugary snack. No to sleeping late...

While I can start talking about how a simple “no” to children isn’t exactly effective, I’m here to talk about something else:
➡️ Can you see how saying no to your children might come easy to protect them or set boundaries, when we as parents might struggle to say "No" to others to set our own boundaries and protect our own wellbeing?

How often do we stop to assess how much we have on our plate?
🚫 Sometimes, we have to say no to that extra curricular because it stretches us too thin. (time, effort, money, stress...)
🚫 Sometimes, we have to say no to feeling bad about not making the best diy costume because we have no time (or don't enjoy it!)
🚫 Sometimes, we have to say no to volunteering at the parent committee as we're already overwhelmed (or just don't want to!)

The point is, aside from saying no and establishing limits, boundaries and discipline with your kids, you deserve to also check in with yourself and say no to things that you cannot do in order to honour your own needs.

Let's normalize saying No to protect our wellbeing, and model to our children what establishing boundaries for self-care looks like.

Give yourself permission to say No to the things that don’t bring you peace or pleasure. No guilt required! 💁🏻‍♀️

When was the last time you said NO to others to honour yourself?

How to respond when someone doesn't agree with your parenting style? Swipe & see!

Different families have different values, styles and preferences. And when we become parents, it's common to have others share their opinions regarding how we raise our kids, and what is acceptable. Remind yourself of your own values, listen to your inner voice, your inner wisdom. You have an amazing powerful instinct, learn how to connect to it.

Parent coaching is not about teaching you "how" to parent. It's supports you to find your own voice and quieten the external noise, the pressure, the expectations, the judgements.

If you are curious, or ready to take the first step, get in touch! I'm a DM away 🙋🏻‍♀️

Are you frequently triggered? 

As parents, there are many things that make us lose control and flip. Our child crying uncontrollably, a child being indecisive, sloooow or "talking back", excessive noise, heat? It riles you up!

We are all triggered by different things. It's very personal.

The thing you need to know is this: feeling triggered is normal. 

Letting the trigger keep going and not addressing it - there’s where we face challenges!

As a parent, it’s important for us to notice, be aware of and understand our own triggers.

The reason we should do this is to stop the trauma cycle.
We don’t want our child to normalize our reflex behaviour and learn that's the normal way to deal with difficult emotions.

If you find yourself struggling with certain triggers, book a call with me and let's get to the bottom of it. Link in bio.

One of the things we often forget as parents is a simple life rule: “Respect goes both ways”.
Yes, with our children, too.

How do you feel when you are continuously talked down to?
Belittled, patronized?
That’s how our children feel too.

If they are often shouted at, given orders, shamed and guilted, they will develop an internal negative voice and start to believe that’s how they deserve to be talked to.
They also normalize this tone of talking down and do it to others.

We have an opportunity to stop this cycle.

Let’s try to be more conscious about our language and tonality, respect each other's time, space, feelings and even hopes and dreams.

Let’s normalize behavior that is empowering, encouraging and honest. Communicate consciously so our children can learn from what we say and do around them.

If you’re looking to transform your parenting style and need support, get in touch to start your journey with me.

DM or book your free intro call: Link in my bio.

Swipe and tell me which one is the one that speaks to you the most right now? 1,2,3,4 or 5?

And did you see on my stories that my group workshops are back? 🥳

Starting end of this month, 2 options to pick from:
A / In person 👭 Dubai location, Tuesday mornings, starting Sep 27th
B / Online 💻 Wherever you are! Thursday evenings, starting Sep 29th

This is your opportunity to start your work towards more peaceful relationships at home, less power struggles and more connection in a beautiful group setting, along with other parents in the same boat. A beautiful way to grow your village ☺️

📋I'm taking sign ups already, just DM me or comment that you're interested and let me give you more details!

Less guilt, more reality! 🤷🏻‍♀️
Every moment can't be perfect. You don't have to smile through your whole day or happily volunteer to entertain everyone...
Take it from Daniel Tiger (ok, Mr. Rogers):
"Sometimes you feel 2 feelings at the same time, AND that's okay!"
Validate your feelings, own them, no need to push them down or ignore them or feel any guilt about them.

So, how are you feeling today?

Hi parents, I’d like to ask you this today: How do you really feel?

The school year just finished or finishing soon? Trips to pack for coming up soon? Wondering how the summer will go with the kids at home?

I know that on the surface level, you might be feeling overwhelmed. But it’s also important to really check in with yourself.

Recently, I’ve been feeling all kinds of doubt. There were so many changes I needed to adapt and plan for: New house, new school, a long trip, sick kids, orthodontic work starting too early...
And as a big planner, I’m not the biggest fan of unknowns. It makes me want to plan everything with even more detail. Understanding what we’re feeling is the first step. No matter how uncomfortable it is, always take a moment to check in with your emotions.

Be curious, explore deeper, what's behind it. How is it showing up? It will help to know where you stand. Makes it easier to know your own expectations, triggers, fears and behavior.

Need guidance with being more conscious about your emotions when parenting? Let me help you.

Book a 30-minute free consultation with me. Link in bio.

Letting go... How do I start?
Here's a little tip!

Can't wait to hear what you'll be releasing. Comment & let me know.



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*Supermom myth*

Let's cut to the chase. There is no such thing. Supermoms don't exist.
There. I said it.

With the advent of social media, we are witnessing more and more the propagation of perfect, too-good-to-be-true representations of motherhood.
And while social media in itself can be very useful, creating social constructs like the supermom myth can be very damaging.

It makes us want to do all the top daily sensory activities, arts and crafts, outdoor play, museum visits, bake organic snacks, serve Instagram worthy home cooked meals every single night, run a spotless super tidy home, be present and mindful and parent positively, read every single parenting book out there, go out on weekly date nights with your partner, practice daily yoga and meditation, take stunning vacations, host dinner parties, lead a successful career, all this while looking skinny, with perfect skin, and in your hot high heels.

🥴 Phew. I got tired writing this, I bet it tires you to just read it.
Simply because it is unrealistic, impossible to achieve all together on your own.



What solution am I suggesting? Stay tuned for the next post.

🗨️ Meanwhile, share with me in the comments: what's the supermom expectation you want to let go of?

It's very easy to feel judged. It can be through a quick comment, a certain look or unsolicited advice.

It can happen in person, by close people, random strangers in a shop or online comment sections!

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Imagine what a relief it would be if we could let go of that feeling of being judged? 💁🏻‍♀️

If we can truly believe and live by: Their opinion or comment is only a reflection of them and their situation, I will not take it personally if it doesn't serve me.

🗨️ Have you ever felt judged as a parent?

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If you need support, book your free consult through the link in Bio.

Tantrums.
When was the last time you had one? Yes you, the adult reading this 😂

"Toddler tantrums" is a very common challenge parents bring up with me. Often what we need, to be able to manage them, is a simple change of perspective.

Swipe through the slides and let me know your thoughts & questions!

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Swipe through this post and comment:

💬 Which shift do you need the most today?
Or, What is already shifting for you?

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