Give Yourself to Love

"Our job is to discriminate between attachment and love.
Attachment is a bunch of neurotic, needy thoughts based on me.
Love is a bunch of altruistic thoughts based on other.
That’s all."

— Ven. Robina Courtin (thanks to Give Yourself to Love graduate Rachel Fryke for sharing!)

Learn more about the Give Yourself to Love course here:
https://zotobi.com/love

Wow. A beautiful poem for your day...

Blessed be the longing
that brought you here

And quickens your soul with wonder.
May you have the courage to listen to
the voice of desire

That disturbs you when you have settled
for something safe.

May you have the wisdom to enter
generously into your own unease
To discover the new direction your
longing wants you to take.

May the forms of your belonging –
in love, creativity, and friendship –
Be equal to the grandeur and the call of
your soul.

– John O'Donohue

Wherever you are,
and whatever you do,
be in love.

— Rumi

FRIDAY is the deadline to join! Sliding scale — hop in:
https://zotobi.com/love/

Give Yourself to Love • Find + grow the partnership you love. DEADLINE TO JOIN IS MARCH 6! • Gain 6 spiritual, practical principles you can use to find and grow loving partnership — without wasting your time or energy.

It feels somewhat strange to be offering this course on finding & growing partnership, when many of us (myself included) are so focused on the election and all that's at stake.

But I do believe that when we are practicing love in our own lives, we grow our power to practice it on larger scales in our society. As Cornell West says: "justice is what love looks like in public."

This course starts March 9 and the early bird deadline is tomorrow. I'd love to have you!

Give Yourself to Love • Online course for do-gooders EARLY BIRD: SAVE $150! Learn a spiritual, practical approach to finding & growing partnership you love — so you can tag-team the world together.

tl;dr: Valentine's discount, $175 off the course starting in a few weeks, anyone who joins today. :)

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I’m thinking today about love: What it is, its place in my life, and its role in the world.

My view on love: Love is giving of yourself to nourish the life of another.

I love this view of love, because it’s active, and it’s a way of being we can access anytime.

I’m learning SO much about love as a new parent: The incredible privilege, to nourish my little Ayla day in and day out: the moments of laughter and bliss, and the moments of wailing and exhaustion.

To be alive is to have “special someones” who, as Mister Rogers says, have loved us into being.

I find this SO profound.

We are ALL the product of love: Caretakers, friends, teachers, mentors, animals… even this very planet that holds us.

When I see I am the product of love, I see that I’m called to create a world built on love.

A world in which everyone can be loved into being all that they have come to be.

This is the deeper purpose of Give Yourself to Love, my online course on love and partnership starting in a few weeks.

It’s for anyone single OR in a relationship, who wants spiritual, practical tools for finding and growing the partnership you love — and for helping create a world built on love.

Spots are limited — take advantage of a special Valentine’s Day discount TODAY ONLY.

Join today + save $175:
https://zotobi.com/love/

Give Yourself to Love • Online course for do-gooders EARLY BIRD: SAVE $150! Learn a spiritual, practical approach to finding & growing partnership you love — so you can tag-team the world together.

FROM COURSE LEADER, ZO TOBI:

If I led Give Yourself to Love (online course on love & partnership, for folks in or seeking a relationship) again in late 2019 / early 2020, would you be interested?

Comment below or PM me if so!

I'd LOVE to offer it — but now that I'm a new dad to little Ayla, I won't have the same time or energy to promote it.

So if it happens, it'll be because there's enough serious interest upfront. :)

Here's more info — you can also join the early wait list:
https://zotobi.com/love

Give Yourself to Love • Online course for progressives & changemakers Whether you're single or in relationship, learn a spiritual, practical approach to finding & growing partnership you love — so you can tag-team the world.

Here’s your for today :-) If you like what you see, TODAY (4/21) is the deadline to apply to join “Give Yourself to Love,” my “pay-what-you-can” online course on love and partnership starting May 6th! I'd love to have you: https://zotobi.com/love/

(Get them by email here: https://zotobi.com/love-notes)

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You have to treat your spouse with respect, like a guest… Reverence should be the nature of our love.

― Thich Nhat Hanh,
Make a True Home of Your Love

Here’s your for today :-) If you like what you see, you might considering applying by TOMORROW (4/21) to join “Give Yourself to Love,” my “pay-what-you-can” online course on love and partnership starting May 6th: https://zotobi.com/love/

(Get them by email here: https://zotobi.com/love-notes)

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most importantly love
like it's the only thing you know how
at the end of the day all this
means nothing
this page
where you're sitting
your degree
your job
the money
nothing even matters
except love and human connection
who you loved
and how deeply you loved them
how you touched the people around you
and how much you gave them

― Rupi Kaur, Milk and Honey

Here’s your for today :-) If you like what you see, you might considering applying by April 21 to join “Give Yourself to Love,” my “pay-what-you-can” online course on love and partnership starting May 6th: https://zotobi.com/love/

(Get them by email here: https://zotobi.com/love-notes)

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i do not want to have you
to fill the empty parts of me
i want to be full on my own

i want to fill so complete
i could light a whole city
and then
i want to have you
cause the two of
us combined
could set
it on fire

― Rupi Kaur, Milk and Honey

Here’s your for today :-) If you like what you see, you might considering applying by April 21 to join “Give Yourself to Love,” my “pay-what-you-can” online course on love and partnership starting May 6th: https://zotobi.com/love/

(Get them by email here: https://zotobi.com/love-notes)

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for you to see beauty here
does not mean
there is beauty in me
it means there is beauty rooted
so deep within you
you can't help but
see it everywhere

― Rupi Kaur, Milk and Honey

Here’s your for today :-) If you like what you see, you might considering applying by April 21 to join “Give Yourself to Love,” my “pay-what-you-can” online course on love and partnership starting May 6th: https://zotobi.com/love/

(Get them by email here: https://zotobi.com/love-notes)

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…Grant that I may
not so much seek to be consoled as to console
to be understood as to understand
To be loved as to love
For it is in giving that we receive
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned.

― Saint Francis of Assisi
The Prayer of Saint Francis

Here’s your for today :-) If you like what you see, you might considering applying by April 21 to join “Give Yourself to Love,” my “pay-what-you-can” online course on love and partnership starting May 6th: https://zotobi.com/love/

(Get them by email here: https://zotobi.com/love-notes)

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That which you give away is yours forever, that which you keep is lost forever.

― S***a Rushtavelin, 12th-century Georgian poet

When we look at those we admire and the qualities we admire in them, we quickly discover the blueprint for who we ourselves are — and always have been. The easy path to meaning, harmony, satisfaction, and fulfillment is to act in accordance with these qualities.

This is one of the things we cover in-depth in Give Yourself to Love, a "pay-what-you-can" online course on love and partnership :-) Check it out, we get started on May 6th: https://zotobi.com/love/

"The beauty you see in me is a reflection of you"
~Rumi

Here’s your for today :-) If you like what you see, you might considering applying by April 21 to join “Give Yourself to Love,” my “pay-what-you-can” online course on love and partnership starting May 6th: https://zotobi.com/love/

(Get them by email here: https://zotobi.com/love-notes)

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Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God’s sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life’s heart.

― Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

Here’s your for today :-) If you like what you see, you might considering applying by April 21 to join “Give Yourself to Love,” my “pay-what-you-can” online course on love and partnership starting May 6th: https://zotobi.com/love/

(Get them by email here: https://zotobi.com/love-notes)

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Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.

― Helen Schucman,
A Course in Miracles

Here’s your for today :-) If you like what you see, you might considering applying by April 21 to join “Give Yourself to Love,” my “pay-what-you-can” online course on love and partnership starting May 6th: https://zotobi.com/love/

(Get them by email here: https://zotobi.com/love-notes)

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Love is our most unifying and empowering common spiritual denominator. The more we ignore its potential to bring greater balance and deeper meaning to human existence, the more likely we are to continue to define history as one long inglorious record of man’s inhumanity to man.

― Aberjhani,
Journey through the Power of the Rainbow: Quotations from a Life Made Out of Poetry

Here’s your for today :-) If you like what you see, you might considering applying by April 21 to join “Give Yourself to Love,” my “pay-what-you-can” online course on love and partnership starting May 6th: https://zotobi.com/love/

(Get them by email here: https://zotobi.com/love-notes)

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Each one of us is alone in the world. It takes great courage to meet the full force of your aloneness.... Until you learn to inhabit your aloneness, the lonely distraction and noise of society will seduce you into false belonging, with which you will only become empty and weary. When you face your aloneness, something begins to happen. Gradually, the sense of bleakness changes into a sense of true belonging. This is a slow and open-ended transition but it is utterly vital in order to come into rhythm with your own individuality. In a sense this is the endless task of finding your true home within your life.

― John O'Donohue, excerpt from Eternal Echoes

Here’s your for today :-) If you like what you see, you might considering applying by April 21 to join “Give Yourself to Love,” my “pay-what-you-can” online course on love and partnership starting May 6th: https://zotobi.com/love/

(Get them by email here: https://zotobi.com/love-notes)

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Each of us can learn the art of nourishing happiness and love. Everything needs food to live, even love. If we don’t know how to nourish our love, it withers. When we feed and support our own happiness, we are nourishing our ability to love. That’s why to love means to learn the art of nourishing our happiness.

― Thich Nhat Hanh, How to Love

Here’s your for today :-) If you like what you see, you might considering applying by April 21 to join “Give Yourself to Love,” my “pay-what-you-can” online course on love and partnership starting May 6th: https://zotobi.com/love/

(Get them by email here: https://zotobi.com/love-notes)

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One man who came to me for advice because he was contemplating a divorce told me mournfully why he thought the marriage went wrong. He said, “I know what my problem was. I was looking for a Ferrari and I got a Ford.” I said, “I think the problem was you were looking for a car.”

― Rabbi David Aaron,
excerpt from Endless Light

"Wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving." - Kahlil Gibran

Here’s your for today :-) If you like what you see, you might considering applying by April 21 to join “Give Yourself to Love,” my “pay-what-you-can” online course on love and partnership starting May 6th: https://zotobi.com/love/

(Get them by email here: https://zotobi.com/love-notes)

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The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.

― Thomas Merton,
No Man Is An Island

Some from a friend:

For those couples so eager to call it quits and throw in the towel on your relationship because everything isn't 'perfect'...here is some food for thought.

Lifelong commitment is not what most people think it is. It's not waking up every morning to make breakfast and eat together. It's not cuddling in bed until both of you fall asleep. It's not a clean home filled with laughter and love making every day.

It's someone who steals all the covers and snores, it's slammed doors and a few harsh words at times.

It's stubbornly disagreeing and giving each other the silent treatment until your hearts heal, and then forgiveness.

It's coming home to the same person every day that you know loves and cares about you in spite of, and because of, who you are.

It's laughing about the one time you accidentally did something stupid.

It's about dirty laundry and unmade beds.

It's about helping each other with the hard work of life.

It's about swallowing the nagging words instead of saying them out loud.

It's about eating the easiest meal you can make and sitting down together at a late hour because you both had a crazy day.

It's when you have an emotional breakdown and your love lays down with you and holds you, and tells you everything is going to be okay. And you believe them.

It's about still loving someone even though sometimes they make you absolutely insane.

Loving someone isn't always easy, sometimes it's hard. But, it is amazing and comforting and one of the best things you will ever experience.

If you are blessed to have a wonderful partner in your life like I have been for the last 45 yrs., then copy and paste the above, attach a picture of the two of you, and post it! I wanna see couples pictures of all my friends please!!!

Wow -- inspiring.

He’s 103, She’s 100, and They Just Celebrated 82 Years of Marriage The North Carolina lovebirds say the secret to their lasting love is simple

Free webinar on April 8, for folks seeking partnership or looking to deepen one they have. Want to join?
https://zotobi.com/love/

Give Yourself to Love • Pay-what-you-can online course for progressives Whether you're single or in relationship, learn a spiritual, practical approach to finding & growing partnership you love — so you can tag-team the world.

Love doesn't just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new. - Ursula K Le Guin

Gain tools for remaking love: https://zotobi.com/love

Love is the force for transformation in our world.

Now accepting applications for the next round of Give Yourself to Love!

This is a “pay-what-you-can” online course for anyone single or in a relationship, who’s looking for a spiritual yet practical approach to love and partnership.

The course gets started May 6th. Want to apply?

Give Yourself to Love • Online course on finding & growing partnership Whether you’re single or in relationship, this pay-what-you-can online course gives you a spiritual, practical approach to finding & growing partnership.