Avoid Gossip - Don't Think You are So Righteous to Do It

Avoid Gossip - Don't Think You are So Righteous to Do It

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07/11/2022

Coward persons resort to gossip and backbite and slander instead of addressing the person involved directly, and telling him or her the thoughts inside him. Remember, gossip is still sin--with cousins: backstabbing, backbiting, evil-speaking, unrighteous judging and slander. Beware of your tongue, for it kills a person's name and reputation.

28/08/2022

📌 Rule of the Thumb:
"The Lord's Precept in Resolving a Conflict"

Matthew 18:15 = “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother." Note that the issue here is "sin", a moral violation of God's moral laws.
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That is the first step. And of course, "First Things First", and you will not court a disaster cause by gossip and backbiting.
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See the whole context of Matthew chapter 18. Church discipline is also hinted in the context. 🎶

[ From the Papers of the One Still Living ] --
Please excuse my frankness but let me go ahead and raise this issue of the Lord's "rule of the thumb" with regards to resolving a conflict. And to wit, the text is
Matthew 18:15 = "If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother."

Note that the first issue is "sinning" and we have the whole context in this chapter which involves a much wider scope of the church's protocol process of discipline for its members (v.17).

"Ang mga relasyon ay palaging karapat-dapat ayusin."

1. But first things first.

When a gossip (a very irreputable news that mercilessly slander or misrepresent a person or distorts his actions or his motives) reached unintended people and caused a disgrace of unnecessary nature, then it warrants a confrontation.
"Who is the one responsible in spreading the gossip?" is a good query.

We may even ask: "Can you help me trace where and from whom the criticism arose?"

The identity is important; otherwise all the scheme will boil down to "gossip".

And of course, the simple thing about gossip is that it is a sin.

Therefore intolerable. And I hate gossips, especially when it is overtly pretended as "a brotherly concern".

2. Note secondly that, The complainer must complain directly to the person concern, because we are told by our Lord this precept of Matthew 18:15.

And more specifically it is said, "tell him his fault, between you and him alone."

Privacy, discretion and confidentiality is recognize even by the outside world, the civilized (though unbeliever when it comes to the gospel) can recognise that there is virtue in respecting people's privacy and resolving misunderstanding in a private manner first, without involving those who are not immediately related. This is none of the business of those who are not concern.

Thirdly, there is a moral failure or violation of the Lord's command whenever this rule is ignored, by-passed or has been set aside: "tell him his fault, between you and him alone."

Premise: Cultivating community takes confidentiality.

> Only in the safe environment of warm acceptance and trusted confidentiality will people open up and share their deepest hurts, needs, and mistakes.
> Confidentiality does not mean keeping silent while your brother or sister sins.
Definition: It means that what is shared in your group needs to stay in your group, and the group needs to deal with it, not gossip to others about it.

God hates gossip, especially when it is thinly disguised as a "prayer request" for someone else. God says, "Gossip is spread by wicked people; they stir up trouble and break up friendships."
Gossip always causes hurt and divisions, and it destroys fellowship, and God is very clear that we are to confront those who cause division among Christians. (PDL)

I thank the pastors responsible enough to halt the spread of irreputable news that unnecessarily put a person in a bad light; I thank you for your prompt action of not tolerating gossip in your jurisdiction.

My direct answer whenever I hear a disrespectful news is always to remind the person concerning Matthew 18:15-ff, and again, first things first.

Who was really complaining?

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