Touch of Flavor

We're building relationships outside of the box. Our official Facebook group is here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/atouchofflavor/

Touch of Flavor produces educational workshops and coaching focused on helping the kinky and non-monogamous find, get, and keep quality partners. Our team is made up of people like you. We understand your lifestyle and the unique challenges you face in trying to find love. And we’ve spent ten years helping people just like you build extraordinary relationships in an ordinary world. Swing by our site to check our events, blog, and to learn more. www.atouchofflavor.com likes or mentions do not equal endorsements. Touch of Flavor is for adults of all ages, sex or sexual orientation.

We spend hours each day coaching polyamorous folks on how to stop fighting, fall back in love, and build amazing relationships. We learn something new about polyamorous relationships every single day.

In fact, there are 10 things we learned this past year that EVERY poly person should know. In this episode, we pull back the curtain and reveal what we learned. http://bit.ly/2N9GmBe

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#070: Breaking Up When You’re Polyamorous - Touch of Flavor

Should I stay or should I go? Breaking Up When You’re Polyamorous http://bit.ly/34luSRV

atouchofflavor.com Every day we help polyamorous folks reconnect with their partners and heal their relationships. But what do you do when a relationship is past saving?

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#076: What It Really Takes To Save A Relationship - Touch of Flavor

“It’s about realizing not just the cost of our partners leaving, but realizing the value that they actually bring to our lives.” http://bit.ly/34fdRZw

atouchofflavor.com We talk about why relationships go downhill and the two specific things it takes in order to save a struggling relationship (hint: effort isn't enough).

10 Poly Secrets We Learned In 2019

(Resources at the bottom of the description)

There are some polyamorous “experts” out there who pretend they have nothing to learn.

Those people are fools.

We learn something new about polyamorous relationships EVERY SINGLE DAY.

Why?

Because every day we spend hours coaching polyamorous folks how to stop fighting, fall back in love, and build amazing relationships.

I’m not just talking about the dozens of clients we worked with this past year. But the hundreds of people we’ve talked to on the phone, at conferences, and online.

In fact, there are 10 things we learned this past year that EVERY poly person should know.

Are you ready to use our experience to help hack your relationships to the next level?

If so, watch this video where we pull back the curtain and reveal what we learned.

RESOURCES BELOW
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What's worse? Screaming or silence?:
https://www.facebook.com/ATouchOfFlavor/videos/2606164049418811/

A bit on stories:
https://www.facebook.com/555969404417859/posts/2832530956761681

What it realy takes to save a realtionship:
https://atouchofflavor.com/076

Are we incompatible?:
https://www.facebook.com/ATouchOfFlavor/videos/533066640817354/

Where did the spark go? (how to reconnect with your partner(s):
https://www.facebook.com/ATouchOfFlavor/videos/2479069099029190/

Why it's important to have a plan:
https://www.facebook.com/ATouchOfFlavor/posts/3196971906984249

Book a free breakthrough call with us so we can come up with a plan to turn your polyamorous relationships around and build something incredible in 2020:
http://bit.ly/2Q8J5N5

IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP STILL SUCKS, THAT'S ON YOU

I got an email the other day that blew my mind.

I’ll tell you all about it in just a sec. But first, I have a question for you:

✅ Is it finally time to start having the relationship(s) you’ve always dreamed of?

To have the excitement, peace, and (most of all) the connection you have been missing?

Over the last few years, Touch Of Flavor has transformed the relationships and lives of dozens of polyamorous people just like you! Here’s what our clients have said:

“Right from the beginning we noticed changes. We realized that the huge roadblocks were blinding us from the good things. We learned great tools to help us work through those roadblocks that seemed impossible.” - Mark

“I truly believe that you were instrumental in making my relationship with the man I love what it is today. You provided us with the skills, suggestions, and proverbial ass kick that we both needed in order to make our primary relationship work.” - Cassidy

BUT we have also watched people remain completely stagnant.

I was going through my emails over today and I saw this:

🙋‍♂️ "I am sick and tired of what my relationship looks like. Christmas is coming and the New Year, and I want to turn things around for my wife. I want to do something to change things because I am tired of coming home to what feels like a roommate”

He went on to say he wanted to join our Mastering Open Relationships program and wanted to get on “another breakthrough call” with us…

This all sounded great! That is until I saw “another” and peeked at the last email he had sent me…

The sad thing is, this guy emailed me essentially the same email this time last year.

And last year he said that he was not their relationship would make it. He had been fighting with his wife about the same issues for the last 6 years with no progress and was ready to make a huge change.

Not only did he want to build a stronger and happier relationship with his wife, he wanted to get back the spark they had when they first got married. But last year he got on the breakthrough call and when we discussed enrolling he said: “I’m going to try to read more books, I am going to do more research.”

This was a recipe for failure. He had already been reading books, he had already been researching. He had been doing all that for 6 years. If it hadn’t worked in all that time, why on earth did he think it would suddenly start working? 🤦‍♀️

So this time around I asked him before setting up a call “Are you ready to get started TODAY?”
And his reply was “I think might soon, I am going to research some more.”

I politely told him I wouldn’t accept him as a client even if he DID come back. I require a much higher level of commitment from my clients.

Here’s the thing: if someone isn’t happy with what their relationship(s) look like, wants to change how they interact with their partners, AND wants to keep their family together, why would they not start a program NOW that would accomplish that just a few weeks??

Why the heck would they waste another year “researching some more”?

The answer is that they are afraid to commit to positive change. Commitment can be scary, but you have to be 100% committed to transform a relationship. Because when you aren’t committed you keep going back to doing the things that feel comfortable… even though those things lead to failure.

I used to feel bad for folks like this. But now I don’t. Because once you realize

YOU CREATE YOUR OWN RESULTS

you can do anything you want in life.

But those OUTCOMES require ACTION.

If you choose to sit around and do nothing or continue to keep doing the same things that have never worked you'll never improve your relationships.

It is sad but the truth is...that’s on you. This is your choice!

But you have another option. You can choose — today — to take the first step to healing your relationships.

2020 is fast approaching and here at Touch Of Flavor we are excited and looking forward to working with our next group of amazing and committed clients. We can’t wait to help them build beautiful connections and completely transform their relationships so that they can spend the next decade making happy memories with their partner(s).💕

Maybe our next client is you.

But we only want to talk with you if you are 100% committed. If you’re not, do not apply. We are extra busy this holiday season and if you are not serious about transforming your relationships now we don’t want you taking up space that could be used by those who are.

So what is COMMITTED? Committed doesn’t say “I’ll start on January 1st”. Committed isn’t “I’m going to keep doing the same things that haven’t worked for a year.” Committed is knowing that there’s no better time to start working on your relationships than NOW.

So if you’re 100% committed to making a change starting right now book a free breakthrough call with us here:

http://bit.ly/2Q4pGwz

And let’s get started.

What do you think is the secret to healing a struggling polyamorous relationship? One where the partners feel disconnected, out of love, and at are at each other’s throats?

Ask ten people this question and you’ll get ten different answers. Hard work. Commitment. Sacrifice. And these are all important. But one of the most critical factors is often overlooked.

In order to heal your relationships, you need a plan. A REAL plan.

Unfortunately, those are hard to come by. Even when you’re getting help from someone who should know better.

A few days ago I had a phone call with someone. Let’s call him Joe. Joe and his wife have been married for nineteen years. About six years ago they opened their relationship. And since then they’ve faced a LOT of challenges. They’ve:

➡ Both broken agreements

➡ Open and then closed their relationship four separate times

➡ Vetoed partners that the other spouse was deeply in love with.

➡ Spent most of their time together arguing about stupid stuff.

➡ And almost gotten divorced twice in the last two years

In fact, things had gotten so tense that their fifteen-year-old daughter had asked to move in with Grandma because she didn’t want to see her “parents be roommates that hate each other.”

That was the final straw that led Joe and his wife to book a call with us. They realized (correctly) that they needed help to turn things around. And like so many folks do, they reached out to a therapist. Unlike many folks, they reached out to a therapist who works with polyamorous folks (which I was happy to hear).

At least until I asked Joe: “So what’s the plan?”

And found out the plan was:

➡ For Joe and his wife to close their relationship.

➡ To read 12 different books on polyamory (in whatever order they felt like).

➡ Listen to 3 different podcasts (including ours).

➡ For Joe’s wife to go to therapy to work on challenges in her personal life until she felt ready to date (unknown how long, but at least two months).

➡ When Joe’s wife was ready to date, then they could both go to therapy (again for an unknown period of time) and work on the problems in their relationship.

(And I kid you not, this polyamory-friendly therapist developed this masterpiece of a plan after having them take, and I quote, “relationship quizzes from magazines like Cosmo.”) 😲🤦🏼‍♀️

I told Joe: “That’s not a plan, it’s throwing everything at the wall and seeing what sticks.”

Because here’s the thing: Joe’s therapist doesn’t have a plan. She’s sending Joe and his wife on a wild goose chase to piece together whatever they can get from contradictory podcasts, books, and groups. And she left Joe and his wife with more questions than answers.

This is an extreme example. But the real shame is that this kind of thing happens all the time.

Really think about this for a minute:

If you need to renovate your house, you get a skilled contractor to explain to you what needs to be done and to sketch it out step by step.

If you need surgery, your doctor walks you through the process of what's going to happen during, before, and after the surgery and tells you what the outcome looks like.

You wouldn’t dream of doing those things if the expert wasn’t able to give you a clear, sensible plan beforehand. But we for some reason don’t have the same expectations for those we trust with our relationships.

And that’s a shame.

Having a plan is like having a map. When you’re headed somewhere you’ve never been before you need a good map and someone who can guide you. Otherwise, you’ll get lost.

But when you have a map, you don’t have to rely on chance. Because that map shows you the exact route to take and allows you to avoid the hazards along the way. Not only that, but it gets you to your goal in the shortest possible amount of time.

So what’s a real plan when it comes to your relationships? A real plan should specify:

1) Where you’re at (the challenges you’re currently facing).

2) Your destination (exactly what changes you’ll see in your relationships).

3) Your path (the exact steps to get you from A to B).

4) How long the journey will take.

Without specifics, you don’t have a plan. You have a dream. And if you’re paying someone without a plan to guide you, you’ve wasted a LOT of money.

At this point you might be wondering:

“But Cassie, if someone gives me a plan, how do I know if it’s a GOOD plan.”

And that’s a great question. Because the actions Joe’s therapist told him to take could arguably be called a plan (albeit an awful one).

So here’s a simple two-step process you can use to answer that question:

Does the plan meet the four criteria I outlined above?

and…

Has this person helped lots of other people like me get to the place I want to be? If so, they have a plan that works. If not, you’re a guinea pig.

If you want to transform your relationships for the better. You need a real plan. Don’t settle.

PS. If you want a real plan to help you transform your relationships, book a free call with our team. I promise you’ll get a plan that meets all the criteria I talked about. And yes. We’ve helped plenty of other non-monogamous folks like you have the relationships they dreamed of.

You can book a call here: http://bit.ly/374X643

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#066: Who’s Your Daddy? with Kate Sloan - Touch of Flavor

"Femme daddies are totally hot” - http://bit.ly/345UCBw

atouchofflavor.com One kink that intrigues —and confuses — many kinksters is the Daddy Dom / little girl dynamic. Today Cassie is talking with Kate Sloan from the Dildorks about all things DD/lg. Topics include the attraction of this dynamic, finding partners, concerns about morality, creating scenes, and more.

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#087: Where did the spark go? - Touch of Flavor

The holidays are fast upon us. And maybe you’re going into them feeling like something is missing. Something big.

I’m not talking about the perfect present. I’m talking about the connection with your partner(s). The chemistry. The spark.

If so, you’re not alone. In fact, the most frequent complaint we hear from polyamorous folks is that they feel disconnected in their relationship…

They’ve lost the spark...

They’ve fallen out of love…

They feel like roommates…

They’re living parallel lives...

The wording varies, but here’s the problem: If you spend too long feeling disconnected from a partner, those clichés become true. You DO start growing apart. You start living parallel lives. And eventually, you become more like roommates than partners. After all, what separates the two if not that feeling of connection?

Here’s the good news: Not only can you get that spark back. But you can get back to a place where you’re every bit as much in love with your partner(s) as when you first met.

And if you’re in a newer relationship where you’re still feeling the connection? There are ways to keep from ever falling out of love in the first place.

In this episode, we break it all down.

http://bit.ly/2MocHE1

atouchofflavor.com The most frequent complaint we hear from polyamorous folks is they feel disconnected in their relationship. But there’s good news. You can get that spark back.

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#086: Pick up Play with Stefanos and Shay - Touch of Flavor

Do you wish you could walk into a dungeon and negotiate a scene with a sexy human you’ve never met before? For many of us, part of the appeal of public events is the spice and variety that playing with someone new can bring. But making the fantasy a reality can be a little difficult.

Never fear! In this episode, experienced playsluts Shay and Stefanos
reveal how to pick up a new partner and keep them coming back for more. We talk about the best events for pick-up play, how to approach someone and ask them to play, negotiation tips, what happens after the scene ends, and more.
http://bit.ly/2PGMfr2

atouchofflavor.com We talk with Shay and Stefanos about the best events for pick-up play, how to approach someone and ask them to play, negotiation tips, and more.

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#075: Dyad Time: More Awesome, Less Suck - Touch of Flavor

Monogamous folks think that the hard thing about polyamory is getting over your partner sleeping with someone else. 🤣

You know what's actually hard when you're polyamorous? Scheduling quality time with your partners.

That's why it sucks so much to work for — and get — time only to feel afterward like you would have been better off reading a book.

And that's a comparatively good scenario. For some of you, time with your partner(s) means arguments, misery, and stress.

In this episode, we're talking about how to make time with your partners, and how to actually ENJOY the time you have. http://bit.ly/342rvzh

atouchofflavor.com We’re talking about dyad time: the time set aside for just one partner. We discuss how to get time on the calendar, and how to actually ENJOY the time you have.

Where did the spark go?

WHERE DID THE SPARK GO???

“We don’t feel like partners. We feel like roommates.”

Sound familiar? If so, you’re not alone.

In fact, the most frequent complaint we hear from polyamorous folks is that they feel disconnected in their relationship…

They’ve lost the spark...

They’ve fallen out of love…

They feel like roommates…

They’re living parallel lives...

The wording varies, but here’s the problem: If you spend too long feeling disconnected from a partner, those clichés become true. You DO start growing apart. You start living parallel lives. And eventually, you become more like roommates than partners. After all, what separates the two if not that feeling of connection?

Here’s the good news: Not only can you get that spark back. But you can get back to a place where you’re every bit as much in love with your partner(s) as when you first met.

Do you want to find out how? If so, watch this video.

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Videos (show all)

10 Poly Secrets We Learned In 2019
Where did the spark go?
WHAT’S WORSE? SCREAMING, OR SILENCE?
ARE WE INCOMPATIBLE?
WHY DO YOU HATE THERAPISTS?
Time With Your Partners: More Awesome, Less Suck
HOW TO BREAK THE ARGUMENT CYCLE
How to Negotiate Exceptional Agreements
Scoby's Story

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