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11/03/2022

Part 4 in the Honoring God During Divorce series.

Honoring God during the divorce process is not easy, but it is not too hard for you. Christian, you can do all thing through Christ who gives you strength (Phil. 4:13). Thus far, we have discussed focusing on Honoring God During Divorce, securing prayer support, i.e., Gather the Troops, and how to Feel All the Feels – Then Resolve to Do What’s Right Anyway. Today we focus on letting God be your vindicator.

When your hopes and dreams are shattered, and your reality morphs into something you don’t recognize, our natural inclination is to protect ourselves. As one brother in Christ shared, “...grief and despair can get the best of you and compromise integrity and character. That’s why it is essential to maintain a strong Christian support system around you.” Amen, brother.

Prayer support is vital. Wise counsel is essential. Both things help you maintain your integrity and character and stay in your lane, i.e., God is your vindicator, do not try to do His job.

Self-protection can take many forms—extreme passivity (picture an ostrich with its head in the sand) to severe aggression. Frequently, we land somewhere in the middle. Hardening our hearts to protect ourselves. Lashing out when we feel attacked – seeking what we are “owed” or to mete out the punishment they “deserve.”

The sad truth is that when we do any of those things, we bring pain and suffering to others. We don’t sin in a vacuum; there is always someone else impacted (often our witness, our child(ren), extended family, and friends). Additionally, when we hardened our heart, we dishonor God who removed our stony heart and gave us a heart of flesh (Ez. 36:26) filled with compassion (1 Jn. 3:17).

The amazing truth is that God can bring about justice and vindicate you without causing collateral damage!

Personally, I believe this is one of the reasons God claims vengeance as His own. “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave the way open for God’s wrath; for it is written, Vengeance is Mine, I will repay (requite), says the Lord” (Rom. 12:19).

God sees you (Gen 16:13). He is a God of Justice (Isa. 30:18) and will fight for you (Ex. 14:14).

Choose to follow Job’s example. In the middle of his storm, he believed in his heart and declared with his mouth, “I know my Redeemer and Vindicator lives” (Job 19:25).

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In the future, we will explore the following:
· Protect Your Child(ren) (I Kings 3:16-28)
· Trust God (I Thes. 5:24, Rev. 19:11)

Angela W. Startz, MAHSC, CCLC
Called2Rise LLC
HopeWorks Counseling

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10/27/2022

Part 3 in the Honoring God During Divorce series.

Navigating the divorce process without compounding the sinfulness of the situation is challenging but not impossible (Matt. 19:26). We have already discussed the importance of gathering your prayer warriors to intercede for you and any child(ren) involved (see Gather the Troops).

Extreme emotional reactions are to be expected. You may experience them as volatile, an avalanche of overwhelming feelings that you seemingly cannot escape, or numbness that robs you of all emotions, good or bad.

Emotions are God-given. They can provide critical pieces of information unavailable to your logical mind. They should not be suppressed nor given the power to determine your course of action. “He who has no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down and without walls” (Pro. 25:28).

Now, let’s talk strategy for ruling over your spirit by keeping your emotions in check: seeking wise counsel and guarding your heart and mind.

There are two types of counsel necessary during a divorce.

1. An excellent attorney who can and will execute their duties fearlessly while allowing you to maintain your integrity. In other words, if God leads you to do something that runs contrary to their advice, they will concede. Their goal is to win a court case; yours is to honor God, bringing lasting victory (Ps. 37:37-40).

Even in the most amicable of divorces, an attorney is necessary. The hallmark of divorce is a hardened heart (Matt. 19:8). In other words, your spouse is no longer looking out for your best interest. If they were, you would be on the road to reconciliation, not divorce.

2. Godly men and women who can help you maintain your focus on honoring God. These are brothers and sisters in Christ who do have your best interest at heart and realize that an earthly victory does not compare to an eternal one. They will hold you accountable, provide wisdom from their own experience, and help you think through the implications of your words and deeds.

Most often, we believe our way is the right way. Getting wise counsel can help us see the error of our ways before we are dealing with the fallout from a poor choice (Pro. 12:15). If you enter into this spiritual war without godly counsel, you will fall (Pro. 11:14), but. “by wise counsel you can wage your war, and in an abundance of counselors, there is victory and safety” (Pro. 24:6).

Guarding your heart and your mind

Thoughts and emotions form a feedback loop. In other words, they exert bi-directional influence. The emotional hub of the brain, the limbic system, is pre-verbal and non-logical. The more “logical” executive functions (forethought and planning, working memory, impulse control, and problem-solving) are in the frontal lobe.

Changing our thoughts is much easier than changing our emotions since they are pre-verbal. I heard once that trying to change your emotions was like trying to ride an elephant. Everything is great as long as the elephant cooperates; once it stops cooperating, you’re just along for the wild ride. Yet, by changing our thoughts, our emotions will change.

God has given us the tools to manage our thoughts and, thereby, our emotions. We take every thought captive and make them obedient to Christ, i.e., bring them in alignment with the Truth of His Word (2 Cor. 10:5). How? By thinking things that are true, honorable, just, pure, loving, kind, gracious, virtuous, and excellent (Phil. 4:8). Are you struggling to find those things in the midst of your divorce? God is all of those things. Think of Him, offer a sacrifice of praise (Heb. 13:15).

Be careful of the stories you tell yourself about your experience. They will become your reality. You may have been victimized – you are not a victim (Rom. 8:37). It is not fair/right/just/insert-your-adjective-here, but God will use it for your good (Rom. 8:28-29).

Guard your heart (Pro. 4:23).

Guard your mind (Isa. 26:3).

For personalized support, schedule an appointment. In the future, we will explore the following steps to success:
· Let God be Your Vindicator (Ex. 14:14, Rom. 12:19)
· Protect Your Child(ren) (I Kings 3:16-28)
· Trust God (I Thes. 5:24, Rev. 19:11)

Angela W. Startz, MAHSC, CCLC
Called2Rise LLC
HopeWorks Counseling

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10/13/2022

(Part 2 in the Honoring God During Divorce series.)

Make no mistake about it – divorce is war. Gather the troops, a.k.a. Prayer Warriors.

You have entered a spiritual battle. However, you must remind yourself that your spouse is not the enemy. You may think it sure feels like they are the enemy; they are acting like an enemy.

Well, God has made provision for those thoughts and feelings. He instructs us to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us (Matt. 5:44). Read 1 Corinthians 13 for a refresher on how God defines love; He is not asking you to have warm, affectionate feelings toward someone who feels like an enemy.

So, what does it look like to love your enemy? See Matthew 5:38-48. How do you pray for your persecutors? Pray for their salvation (Jude 23), their relationship with God to deepen (2 Pet. 3:18), and for conviction from the Holy Spirit to bring about repentance (Jn. 16:8).

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09/28/2022

Honoring God During Divorce

In the words of a friend of mine, “I didn’t know that was a thing.” Another said, “The thought never crossed my mind about seeking biblical counsel in that scenario [divorce].”

The Bible was not given to us to teach us how to live holy and honor God in a perfect world where everything goes our way and according to our plan. It was given to us, so we could begin to understand God’s character, see His heart, and learn to imitate Him as beloved children (Eph. 5:1-3) right here in this fallen, broken, diseased, corrupt world.

It was given to us to know how to receive His forgiveness (Acts 10:43, I Jn, 1:9) and extend it to ourselves and others (Col. 3:13).

So, yes, it’s a thing. You can honor God while walking through the ungodly process of divorce.

Assuming you have done all you can to reconcile and divorce is inevitable, seeking wise counsel (in addition to your attorney) is a must to set yourself up for success (Pro. 11:14). Assets do not measure success in this arena. It is measured by honoring God, maintaining your integrity, not compromising your character, and safeguarding your child(ren).

This video series will explore biblical ways to honor God and conduct yourself during this very trying time in your journey. For personalized support, schedule an appointment. In the future, we will explore the following steps to success:
• Gather the Troops - Get prayer support without backbiting, talebearing, and gossiping in the process (Rom. 1:28-30, Rom. 12:12)
• Feel All the Feels - Then Resolve to Do What is Right Anyway (I Pet. 3:12)
• Let God be Your Vindicator (Ex. 14:14, Rom. 12:19)
• Protect Your Child(ren) (I Kings 3:16-28)
• Trust God (I Thes. 5:24, Rev. 19:11)
Angela W. Startz, MAHSC, CCLC
Called2Rise LLC
HopeWorks Counseling

Timeline photos 09/25/2022

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Whatever you’re facing, there is grace for you today and hope for you always. “There is surely a future hope for you…” (Proverbs 23:18)
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09/15/2022

Empaths are natural caregivers. They are in tune with others and can often anticipate needs. Empaths go beyond understanding what someone is feeling to feeling the other person’s feelings with them.
These intensely compassionate and gifted people often find themselves in supporting roles regardless of their profession – though a significant number of those in caregiving professions are empaths. They provide emotional support and meet physical needs without reservation.
Redescent to ask for help, the needs of caregivers often go unaddressed and unmet. They give so freely and generously to others that, often, the recipients of their empathy do not understand what it costs the empath.
In addition to their own stress and trauma, empathic caregivers also suffer vicarious traumas as they empathize with others (Lawson & Vernart, 2005), creating an “accumulation of pain” (Hunter, 2016). When they neglect self-care, they can also develop secondhand depression (Huner, 2016).
The cost of caring is high. How can the empath continue to love and support others without becoming a casualty in another’s trauma? Educate yourself on compassion fatigue - what to look out for and practice self-awareness, self-care, and shore up your support systems.


References
Hunter, S. T. (2016). Beyond the breaking point: Examining the pieces of counselor burnout, compassion fatigue, and secondhand depression. VISTAS. https://www.counseling.org/knowledge-center/vistas.
Lawson, G. & Venart, B. (2005). Preventing counselor impairment: Vulnerability, wellness, and resilience. VISTAS. https://www.counseling.org/knowledge-center/vistas.

Recommended Reading https://www.stress.org/military/for-practitionersleaders/compassion-fatigue

09/01/2022

“When angry, do not sin” (Eph. 4:26a). The predictability of anger affords itself to strategic interventions at each stage. The earlier interventions are utilized, the easier it is to circumvent the downward spiral to sinful behavior. There is hope at each stage! Many describe anger as a secondary emotion. In other words, the primary emotion (fear, hurt, disappointment, or betrayal, for example) occurs first, and anger is in response to it. Whether you consider it a primary or secondary emotion, anger alerts us to injustice and propels us toward action. So, not all anger is “bad.” It can drive us toward actions that improve our lives and the lives of others, just as it can propel us toward destruction. The choice is ours.

08/25/2022

Emotion Regulation

The ability to regulate emotions impacts all areas of our lives – mental and emotional wellbeing, interpersonal skills, relationship satisfaction, emotional intimacy, and employment opportunities, to name a few.

08/10/2022

How did we get here? Being misunderstood is painful and can harm intimacy in relationships. Conflicts can result in deeper connection when we communicate authentically.

07/27/2022

Don’t overcomplicate it. Forgiveness is simple - it’s just not always easy. Ask God for help; He’s really good at it.

07/27/2022

Don’t over complicate it. Forgiveness is simple - it’s just not always easy. Ask God for help; He’s really good at it.

07/20/2022

Is self-forgiveness a thing? Yes, it’s an important thing.

Isn’t it just rationalizing or justifying your behavior so you quit feeling guilty? No, though it does lessen the burden of guilt.

It’s selfish, right? Not at all; it’s necessary to prevent recurring regrettable incidents. Self-forgiveness is a gift you give yourself and others.

Photos from Called2Rise LLC's post 07/13/2022

Is it an act of will or a change in feelings?

07/07/2022

How can a Christian navigate this process without compounding the sinfulness of the situation? Contact Angela at Called2Rise.com & HopeWorksCounseling.org.

03/23/2022

The hallmarks of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are a profound lack of empathy, sense of grandiosity or self-importance, and a need to be admired. While everyone displays these characteristics at some point in their lives, for people with NPD these traits are pervasive, enduring, inflexible, stable over time. and leads to distress or impairment (American Psychiatric Association, 2013).

According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (5th ed.; DSM-5, American Psychiatric Association, 2013, p. 669), a person who exhibits five or more of the following qualities meets the diagnostic criteria for NPD:
1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements).
2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.
3. Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions).
4. Requires excessive admiration.
5. Has a sense of entitlement (i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations).
6. Is interpersonally exploitative (i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends).
7. Lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others.
8. Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her.
9. Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes.

Learn more about the development of narcissistic personality disorder linktr.ee in bio.

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Borderline Personality Disorder 03/03/2022

Borderline Personality Disorder

At the heart of borderline personality disorder lies a fractured self-image and a disorganized attachment style rooted in a bone-deep fear of abandonment and rejection.

https://www.called2rise.com/post/borderline-personality-disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder At the heart of borderline personality disorder lies a fractured self-image and a disorganized attachment style rooted in a bone-deep fear of abandonment and rejection. What is a Disorganized Attachment Style? Attachment styles are formed early in life. As infants and young children, we learn our wo...

02/18/2022

Christian, self-worth does not mean selfish. It means honoring God by valuing the pinnacle of His creation (us), so we can love Him and love others more effectively. If we don’t value ourselves, it is difficult to value others, damaging relationships and tarnishing our witness. So, you can see the importance of seeking your worth from the One who can provide it – our Heavenly Father.
https://www.called2rise.com/post/self-worth

Spiritual Warfare | Rules of Engagement 12/01/2021

Spiritual Warfare | Rules of Engagement

In response to my post, Gather The Troops, I was asked to create a list of the Christian rules of engagement. What follows is a condensed version of what God taught me in the Valley of Divorce. It's equal parts bible study and blog post. What has God taught you in your spiritual battle? Please share in the comments and encourage your brothers in sisters in Christ who are fighting the good fight.
https://www.called2rise.com/post/rules-of-engagement

Spiritual Warfare | Rules of Engagement In response to my post, Gather The Troops, I was asked to create a list of the Christian rules of engagement.

11/22/2021
The Parentified Child – All Grown Up 11/20/2021

The Parentified Child – All Grown Up

Forced to grow up too quickly, adults who were parentified are easy to spot once you know the signs. These men and women are independent, resilient, competent, responsible, and excel at problem-solving. They are simultaneously insecure, emotionally disengaged from themselves, have poor boundaries and trust and control issues.

They trend toward being avoidantly attached in relationships, making authentic, trusting, truly intimate relationships extremely difficult to develop and maintain. Love and self-worth are transactional, i.e., they seek to earn love by caretaking and, in doing so, boost their self-worth. Poor communication skills and unwillingness to ask for help or depend on anyone else contribute to a lack of social support.

If you are an adult who was parentified as a child or are in a relationship with one, there is hope and help. Attachment styles, emotional intelligence, boundaries, and trust, control, and self-worth issues are all learned, which means you can unlearn them. Learning and developing in these areas is a lifelong pursuit for every person seeking fulfillment. There is help available, and you have unique skills to leverage - resiliency, competence, accepting responsibility, and problem-solving.


https://www.called2rise.com/post/parentification

The Parentified Child – All Grown Up Forced to grow up too quickly, adults who were parentified are easy to spot once you know the signs.

De-escalating Anger 10/28/2021

De-escalating Anger

Many describe anger as a secondary emotion. In other words, the primary emotion (fear, hurt, disappointment, or betrayal, for example) occurs first, and anger is in response to it. Whether you consider it a primary or secondary emotion, anger alerts us to injustice and propels us toward action. So, not all anger is “bad.” It can drive us toward actions that improve our lives and the lives of others, just as it can propel us toward destruction. The choice is ours.
https://www.called2rise.com/post/de-escalating-anger

De-escalating Anger The predictability of anger affords itself to strategic interventions at each stage.

The Cost of Caring 10/20/2021

The Cost of Caring

The cost of caring is high. How can the empath continue to love and support others without becoming a casualty in another’s trauma? Educate yourself on compassion fatigue - what to look out for and practice self-awareness, self-care, and shore-up your support systems.
https://www.called2rise.com/post/the-cost-of-caring

The Cost of Caring Empaths give so freely and generously to others that, often, the recipients of their empathy do not understand what it costs the empath.

Spiritual Implications of Cognitive Dissonance 10/13/2021

Spiritual Implications of Cognitive Dissonance

Cognitive dissonance is an insidious process that slowly erodes relationships, drawing us away from God and others. It is the seed that takes root in the heart of the backsliding Christian (Pro. 14:14). It is how we successfully make provision for the flesh (Rom. 13:14), i.e., enabling addictions. “...cognitive dissonance engulfs one whose spirit has been renewed but whose mind is still carnal, generating the double-mindedness that leads to self-deception (Jam. 1:22)”
Read more re: spiritual repercussions and the resolution of cognitive dissonance at
https://www.called2rise.com/post/spiritual-implications-of-cognitive-dissonance

Spiritual Implications of Cognitive Dissonance Cognitive Dissonance Erodes Relationships, Enables Addictions, & Spiritual Backsliding

Christian Co-Parenting 09/22/2021

Christian Co-Parenting

The only commandment attached to a promise is to honor your father and mother (Ex. 20:12, Eph. 6:2-3). Do not make it difficult for your children to keep this commandment and rob them of its promise (Eph. 6:4).
https://www.called2rise.com/post/christian-co-parenting

Christian Co-Parenting Christian Co-Parenting - Honor God - Love Your Children Part 7 in the Honoring God During Divorce series.

Protect Your Children During Divorce 09/08/2021

Protect Your Children During Divorce

Going through a divorce in which children are involved is perhaps one of the most devastating experiences a person can endure. Pause and consider this - for the children involved, something which is entirely outside of their control and has nothing to do with them has altered the trajectory of their lives.
https://www.called2rise.com/post/protect-your-children-during-divorce

Protect Your Children During Divorce For the children involved, something which is entirely outside of their control has altered the trajectory of their lives.

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