Passion Provokers

Who’s a recovering control freak (and recovering approval addict)??? 🙋‍♀️This girl🙋‍♀️

Yep, and I know exactly where it comes from... Are you leaning in for this?

The fear of being judged or disapproved of. Yikes.

When we have come to believe in the voices that call us worthless and unlovable, then success (control), popularity (control), perfection (control), being “right” (control), and power (control) are easily perceived as attractive solutions. (Note: none of these things are wrong; it’s when they become the idols we worship that they are dangerous and life-sucking.)

The real trap, however, is self-rejection. Reject myself before anybody else can reject me... Resonate? Me, too.

As soon as someone accuses me or criticizes me, as soon as I am rejected, left alone, or abandoned, I too-often (still!) find myself thinking, “Well, that proves once again that I am unimportant” … [My dark side says,] “I am no good, it worthy of love and acceptance… I deserve to be pushed aside, forgotten, rejected, and abandoned.”

Self-rejection is the greatest enemy
—dreams,
—of relationships,
—of peace, empowerment and joy,
—of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the “Beloved.”

Philosopher, theologian, and humble sage Henri Nouwen writes, “Being the Beloved constitutes the core truth of our existence.”

The core truth of our existence is being the Beloved...

Sink your teeth into that delicious morsel of truth. Wowza.

You are in control of this fight for freedom from control. And YOU ARE WORTHY of your name The Beloved. Embrace it today and know that you are loved, important, and valuable because you are the Beloved.

xoxo

Who’s a recovering control freak (and recovering approval addict)??? 🙋‍♀️This girl🙋‍♀️

Yep, and I know exactly where it comes from... Are you leaning in for this?

The fear of being judged or disapproved of. Yikes.

When we have come to believe in the voices that call us worthless and unlovable, then success (control), popularity (control), perfection (control), being “right” (control), and power (control) are easily perceived as attractive solutions. (Note: none of these things are wrong; it’s when they become the idols we worship that they are dangerous and life-sucking.)

The real trap, however, is self-rejection. Reject myself before anybody else can reject me... Resonate? Me, too.

As soon as someone accuses me or criticizes me, as soon as I am rejected, left alone, or abandoned, I too-often (still!) find myself thinking, “Well, that proves once again that I am unimportant” … [My dark side says,] “I am no good, it worthy of love and acceptance… I deserve to be pushed aside, forgotten, rejected, and abandoned.”

Self-rejection is the greatest enemy
—dreams,
—of relationships,
—of peace, empowerment and joy,
—of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the “Beloved.”

Philosopher, theologian, and humble sage Henri Nouwen writes, “Being the Beloved constitutes the core truth of our existence.”

The core truth of our existence is being the Beloved...

Sink your teeth into that delicious morsel of truth. Wowza.

You are in control of this fight for freedom from control. And YOU ARE WORTHY of your name The Beloved. Embrace it today and know that you are loved, important, and valuable because you are the Beloved.

xoxo

Happy 9-year wedding anniversary to our daughter Ariel and son-in-law Preston Minter (and parents of our precious grandlittles—best gift EVER!)!!! You two are rockstars in life, love, parenting, etc! We are so proud of you and love you so much. 💓🤗🎊💕

Happy 9-year wedding anniversary to our daughter Ariel and son-in-law Preston Minter (and parents of our precious grandlittles—best gift EVER!)!!! You two are rockstars in life, love, parenting, etc! We are so proud of you and love you so much. 💓🤗🎊💕

It’s a beautiful life! ❤️🥰

Are you feeling broken today?

Does your coupleship feel broken and unfixable? Are you on the verge of separation or divorce?

We have a glimmer of hope for you that most coupleships are fixable. Give us a shot—aren’t you worth it?

Are you feeling broken today?

Does your coupleship feel broken and unfixable? Are you on the verge of separation or divorce?

We have a glimmer of hope for you that most coupleships are fixable. Give us a shot—aren’t you worth it?

You can live a life of health and happiness!

Did you know that chronic stress and unresolved painful feelings can destroy your coupleship and will eventually kill you if something doesn’t change?

Yep, been there and it almost killed me. But here we are now living our best life. 💓🤗

Choose life (really living), choose health (emotional and physical), choose cherishing (yourself and your loves), choose grace...🙏🏻

#choosehealthandjoy #feelhealbereal #ForgivenessCoaching #vanlife #mentoringandcoaching #relationshipexperts

You can live a life of health and happiness!

Did you know that chronic stress and unresolved painful feelings can destroy your coupleship and will eventually kill you if something doesn’t change?

Yep, been there and it almost killed me. But here we are now living our best life. 💓🤗

Choose life (really living), choose health (emotional and physical), choose cherishing (yourself and your loves), choose grace...🙏🏻

#choosehealthandjoy #feelhealbereal #ForgivenessCoaching #vanlife #mentoringandcoaching #relationshipexperts

Where Love and Sex Intertwine (Forever)

What's on my mind??? Sex...

Actually, to be more accurate, sex and love and intimacy and all that yummy stuff! I'm sure it's because of this book we're in the middle of writing, but it's taken over my mind. 😯😏💓

Here's our newest blog on the subject. Enjoy!

https://www.jamiandmarla.love/blogs-and-vlogs/where-love-and-sex-intertwine-forever

Where Love and Sex Intertwine (Forever) There are so many key factors that make us individuals, probably billions the way scientific research is heading! And when it comes to a romance that combines perfectly the sexual and the emotional,...

Excerpt from our upcoming book, "The Other S Word: {Intimate} SEX Is Not for the Faint of Heart":

“Nothing synchronizes two hearts like a mutually shared climax. Not only is it the most intimate connection in life, it’s also great for your health! Did you know that it is often referred to as the fountain of youth? Want to stay young, have more sex. But there’s a catch… Most couples miss the emotional connection that is vital for overall health. Consistent, emotionally connected sex is the very best thing for you and your partner which actually infuses a deeper love into your family and the community in which you surround yourself.

This is not about just ‘getting off.’ This is about the connecting of two souls; kind of like jumping inside each other’s hearts. In the privacy of this magically sacred space, you are choosing to embrace life, love, and happiness. The chemicals involved inside of a climax--oxytocin, serotonin, melatonin, and dopamine to name a few--create an emotional and physical cleansing that expels toxins that are known to cause things like cancer, depression, heart disease, and anxiety. This release affects all bodily functions and actually lengthens your telomeres, indicating a longer life. Thus, emotionally connected sex is truly the fountain of youth.

It’s all about mingling the mystical and the mechanical inside of a loving process."
~ Jami and Marla 💓🙏🏻

Love or are uncomfortable with it, it’s science! Might it be time for a good talk with your partner about it all? We dare you...

xoxo

#theothersword #notforthefaintofheart #intimatesexisbest #itsnotabouttechnique #feelhealbereal #SEXtheothersword #wantsomegetsome #happymarriage #couplegoals #forgivenessmatters #forgivenesscoaching #mentoringandcoaching

Excerpt from our upcoming book, "The Other S Word: {Intimate} SEX Is Not for the Faint of Heart":

“Nothing synchronizes two hearts like a mutually shared climax. Not only is it the most intimate connection in life, it’s also great for your health! Did you know that it is often referred to as the fountain of youth? Want to stay young, have more sex. But there’s a catch… Most couples miss the emotional connection that is vital for overall health. Consistent, emotionally connected sex is the very best thing for you and your partner which actually infuses a deeper love into your family and the community in which you surround yourself.

This is not about just ‘getting off.’ This is about the connecting of two souls; kind of like jumping inside each other’s hearts. In the privacy of this magically sacred space, you are choosing to embrace life, love, and happiness. The chemicals involved inside of a climax--oxytocin, serotonin, melatonin, and dopamine to name a few--create an emotional and physical cleansing that expels toxins that are known to cause things like cancer, depression, heart disease, and anxiety. This release affects all bodily functions and actually lengthens your telomeres, indicating a longer life. Thus, emotionally connected sex is truly the fountain of youth.

It’s all about mingling the mystical and the mechanical inside of a loving process."
~ Jami and Marla 💓🙏🏻

Love or are uncomfortable with it, it’s science! Might it be time for a good talk with your partner about it all? We dare you...

xoxo

#theothersword #notforthefaintofheart #intimatesexisbest #itsnotabouttechnique #feelhealbereal #SEXtheothersword #wantsomegetsome #happymarriage #couplegoals #forgivenessmatters #forgivenesscoaching #mentoringandcoaching

It’s what we’re made for. 🧡🙏🏻

You really are the hero especially when you choose connection over confusion, humility over hostility, and joy over judgement...

Because in the end, we all become stories.

Be the hero.

Because you are born for it.

xoxo

It’s what we’re made for. 🧡🙏🏻

You really are the hero especially when you choose connection over confusion, humility over hostility, and joy over judgement...

Because in the end, we all become stories.

Be the hero.

Because you are born for it.

xoxo

It takes wings to fly...🧚🏻‍♀️💕

And speaking of flight, the butterfly has held profound symbolism for me since 2000 when I chose flight over fear.

Did you know that the caterpillar completely liquifies and then the cells reform to create the butterfly? Wow. I am thankful to have been liquified (that's really how my heart felt) and then to be recreated to fly, and love, and feel true joy.

I'm not always good at staying afloat, but I'm no longer crawling on the ground so often. So. Much. Gratitude.

Chose flight over fear today, my friends!

xoxo

It takes wings to fly...🧚🏻‍♀️💕

And speaking of flight, the butterfly has held profound symbolism for me since 2000 when I chose flight over fear.

Did you know that the caterpillar completely liquifies and then the cells reform to create the butterfly? Wow. I am thankful to have been liquified (that's really how my heart felt) and then to be recreated to fly, and love, and feel true joy.

I'm not always good at staying afloat, but I'm no longer crawling on the ground so often. So. Much. Gratitude.

Chose flight over fear today, my friends!

xoxo

To all you incredible women out there (“see more” for a special retreat announcement!)...💓

As women we have grown up being told things or shown things that tell us hurtful messages like, “You are too loud [bossy, excited, sensitive…],” and “You are not enough” and “You are too much [because of those inappropriate clothes you have on, because you are acting flirty, because, because, because…].”

These messages have become the internal voices that dull your magic or completely destroy it, zapping your awareness and presence.

What are your internal shaming voices telling you that limit the magical being that you are?

It’s time for you to reclaim your magic, ladies! Are you ready to do that? (Can I hear a resounding YESSSSSSSS?!!!)

The biggest thing stealing your sparkle, your joy? Blindspots. Let’s go blindspotting!

@jamiandmarla.love and I are super excited to announce our upcoming fall retreat for women. Drop a comment below or dm me if you’d like the deets!

xoxo

To all you incredible women out there (“see more” for a special retreat announcement!)...💓

As women we have grown up being told things or shown things that tell us hurtful messages like, “You are too loud [bossy, excited, sensitive…],” and “You are not enough” and “You are too much [because of those inappropriate clothes you have on, because you are acting flirty, because, because, because…].”

These messages have become the internal voices that dull your magic or completely destroy it, zapping your awareness and presence.

What are your internal shaming voices telling you that limit the magical being that you are?

It’s time for you to reclaim your magic, ladies! Are you ready to do that? (Can I hear a resounding YESSSSSSSS?!!!)

The biggest thing stealing your sparkle, your joy? Blindspots. Let’s go blindspotting!

@jamiandmarla.love and I are super excited to announce our upcoming fall retreat for women. Drop a comment below or dm me if you’d like the deets!

xoxo

We have some exciting locations for our couples retreats! (Think Park City, UT, Sun Valley, ID, Bend, OR, etc.) Email coming Wednesday to all those on our mailing list!! (To be a part of our fun and informative community emails comment below with your email address. 🧡)

Three day weekends all inclusive (except dinner on your own Saturday night). Executive accommodations!! $997 to $1197- depending on the room. Space is very limited!

P.S. If you’re already IN follow the link below to register, pay, and SAVE YOUR SPOT!!!

For “Spicin’ it up! Couple’s Retreat” Retreats:

https://www.jamiandmarla.love/spicinrsquo-it-up-couplersquos-retreats.html

https://www.jamiandmarla.love/advanced-retreats.html

Yeah, baby, yeah!!! I can’t WAIT! ~m

*happy dance* 💓🥰💕

We have some exciting locations for our couples retreats! Newsletter coming Wednesday!! Three day weekends all inclusive (except dinner on your own Saturday night). Executive accommodations!! $997 to $1197- depending on the room. Space will be limited!

fair·y tale
/ˈferē tāl/

1. a children's story about magical and imaginary beings and lands.
2. something resembling a fairy tale in being magical, idealized, or extremely happy. modifier noun: fairy-tale: “a fairy-tale romance”
3. a fabricated story, especially one intended to deceive.

#2: This is what I have fought for. This is what @jamiandmarla.love and I have worked so hard to attain. It could have stayed a #3 but... We. Both. Chose. Each other.

We made the choice to step into the pain and trauma and betrayal to see if the “fairy-tale romance” could be really real for our coupleship.

And, guess what? It is real. And it wasn’t easy. And it is true love (twuuuu wuvvvv 😆). And we fought, and continue to fight, our asses off to be here.

If someone feeds you bullsh*t by saying, “If a relationship is hard it’s not mean to be. It’s supposed to be easy” call it out right there! These are just the cheap words of someone who has never truly experienced intimacy (emotional and physical) and hasn’t chosen to see what’s beyond their intimacy barrier.

I choose to fight for my fairy tale every day all day because it’s worth it. 💓

And some days it hurts like hell but I promise the fabulous far outweighs the pain and it particularly outweighs the “good enough”.

Don’t settle but please don’t give up! Find help moving through your relational quicksand (or six-foot-under very dark grave). Your fairy tail outcome can be happily ever after! 💕

Loves,
~m

#fairytalelove #coupleshiplove #jamiandmarlalove #vanlifediaries #joy #relationshipexperts #vanlife #forgivenessmatters #wecanhelpyoutoo

fair·y tale
/ˈferē tāl/

1. a children's story about magical and imaginary beings and lands.
2. something resembling a fairy tale in being magical, idealized, or extremely happy. modifier noun: fairy-tale: “a fairy-tale romance”
3. a fabricated story, especially one intended to deceive.

#2: This is what I have fought for. This is what @jamiandmarla.love and I have worked so hard to attain. It could have stayed a #3 but... We. Both. Chose. Each other.

We made the choice to step into the pain and trauma and betrayal to see if the “fairy-tale romance” could be really real for our coupleship.

And, guess what? It is real. And it wasn’t easy. And it is true love (twuuuu wuvvvv 😆). And we fought, and continue to fight, our asses off to be here.

If someone feeds you bullsh*t by saying, “If a relationship is hard it’s not mean to be. It’s supposed to be easy” call it out right there! These are just the cheap words of someone who has never truly experienced intimacy (emotional and physical) and hasn’t chosen to see what’s beyond their intimacy barrier.

I choose to fight for my fairy tale every day all day because it’s worth it. 💓

And some days it hurts like hell but I promise the fabulous far outweighs the pain and it particularly outweighs the “good enough”.

Don’t settle but please don’t give up! Find help moving through your relational quicksand (or six-foot-under very dark grave). Your fairy tail outcome can be happily ever after! 💕

Loves,
~m

#fairytalelove #coupleshiplove #jamiandmarlalove #vanlifediaries #joy #relationshipexperts #vanlife #forgivenessmatters #wecanhelpyoutoo