Passion Provokers

Truth… Jami and I had a “feeling match” of adrenalyzing but I covered it with perfectionism and codependency (“helping” others feel better because it helped me feel better [hear “control freak”] 😵) and Jami covered it with transitional addiction (I can put down a beer replacing it with high-adrenaline sports then workaholism then then then). It almost killed our coupleship andddd even almost killed us physically.

Then something magical happened…🧡🙏🏻🤗 (the good, the bad, the ugly, and the magical, the joy, and the deep intimacy that never ends)!

Spicin’ It Up Couple’s Retreats

Hello and happy Memorial Day! We take a moment to honor as well as state our gratitude for all those who have given their lives for our country, as well as send a huge "Thank you!" to those who are actively serving. May your day be full of love and joy.

Now, for some retreat news: In case you have been considering attending one of our couple's retreats now is the time! Because we are changing up our offerings this retreat is significantly less expensive than it will ever be again. We have one spot available for our June 10-12 Spicin' It Up Retreat here in Boise. We would love to have you! You can register here:

https://www.jamiandmarla.love/spicinrsquo-it-up-couplersquos-retreats.html

Wondering if this retreat is a good fit for your coupleship? If it has been difficult to find time for your coupleship or you simply want to sharpen your already on-point relationship then this retreat weekend is for you! Past participants report getting more during this retreat than two years of conventional counseling (short and sweet!). Space is limited so reserve your spot today! (*We want to make sure that you feel comfortable so it is important to note that all personal exercises are completed privately with your partner. Unless you want to share, there will be no public disclosure of your personal information.) Here’s what you’ll experience:

-->A new and unique way of communicating that will surprise you with its simplicity,
-->A deeper understanding of your and your partner’s personalities and how they interact on a day-to-day basis,
-->An increased connection and trust in yourself and your partner,
-->And super effective ways to manage tensions and make repairs.

Is this retreat for you? (If you answer “Yes” to any of the following questions then, YES, it’s for you!)
-->Do you want to take what’s already a good relationship and make it great?
-->Do you desire a more fulfilling coupleship?
-->Do you want a more intimate connection emotionally and physically?
-->Do you want tools to eliminate stress and that same old fight and replace it with peace and happiness?

What is the cost?
-->$1050 and $1197 per couple depending on room choice.
The cost will include lodging, meals (Saturday night dinner date night is on your own), and all retreat activities.
If you're ready to reserve your spot you can do that HERE.

We are excited to connect with you whether it's just a "hello" or you scheduling a free Discovery Session (https://passionprovokers.schedulista.com/) or joining us for an incredible retreat weekend.

Marla and Jami
Relationship Experts
Coaches, Mentors, and Facilitators

Spicin’ It Up Couple’s Retreats SCROLL FOR SIGN-UP FORM... It’s the perfect time to get away from it all with your love! We are super excited to offer our fun and refreshing Spicin’ It Up Couple’s Retreat as well as our ...

I love everything about this! 😊

What is it that inspires you? For me, it’s a deeper love of myself and with Jami.

And it’s NOT easy at times. Daring to open up to deeper healing and vulnerability for myself and for our coupleship is freaking scary at times.

And...it’s worth it. Every time. (And, at times, super painful. But, to grow is to experience pain and that’s why sometimes I avoid it like the plague. 😲😵😏🤗🙏🏻)

Dare to love yourself deep into your darkest places where light has been denied for far too long. It will hurt like hell, and it will give you joy you haven’t yet experienced.

How? Well, here’s what I do:

🧡 Find a quiet time and place and ask yourself (or your partner if you are brave because they usually know 😬), “What triggers me the most?” Write out what comes to you.
🧡 Now write the emotions you feel when triggered (three feelings from the Feeling Wheel posted in the comments).
🧡 Feel them: where are they in your body, how big are they, what is your reaction/action around them?
🧡 Now, take another look at the wheel and find the feeling across the wheel from them. These are your goal emotions. Feel them: where are they in your body, how big are they, what is your reaction/action around them?
🧡 Take some time (at least five minutes) and breathe out the trigger emotions and breathe in the positive ones you just identified.

There you go. I dare you...

Dare to create an epic life, my friends.

xoxo

A little something I created for www.JamiAndMarla.love to remind myself to be kind, graceful, and loving to, well, me...💚

Maybe it’s a little reminder for you today, too.

❤️

Best way to organize/run a couple’s retreat by far—1 full week in a majestic villa, 3-5 hours of the 5 days of deep work, and daily adventures… Take me back to Mexico! What a gorgeous time with outstanding people and great friends. 🏖💓😄

Some fun shots from our time in Mexico 🏖💓🥰

Peace out (to Puerto Vallarta, baby, to run a week-long Advanced Couple’s Retreat)! 💓🤗

Sorry Boise friends—snowwwww again. 🥶😕🙏🏻

Barely made it btw--ready for story time?

As related to our kids earlier: Dude we had a notification at midnight that our 6 am Boise flight was canceled and we were put on another flight at 9:35 am which meant we would miss our PV flight. Then we woke up at 6:30 to get to the airport for the 9:35 flight and there was a notification that our flight was reschedule again for 6 frickin 30 so WE MISSED IT!!! Didn’t shower and ran to the airport to at first find out we couldn’t be able to get to PV until tomorrow. Then, thanks to the awesome Tammy from Delta, she miraculously got us on the 9:35 from Boise and then we have a quick run (45 minutes) to our next flight in Seattle. HOLY S**T the disappointment was HIGH and I almost cried but Tammy saved the day!!! Thank you, Jesus! 🧡🙏🏻🤗

Has there been a time in your life when you’ve experienced joy beyond measure and then, after you’ve vulnerablly given all of your heart and soul to the person/situation you find yourself with a (mortally?) wounded soul and a shattered heart?

I have. And I almost decided to never let my heart-strings be plucked again; I sealed my heart and soul away in cellophane believing this was, indeed, a better way...

I numbed my heartache believing it was gone...

And I had no joy.

Is this you? I’m here to tell you that it’s more than worth it to open your heart back up for business! I have more joy than I could have imagined. 🌸💕

No matter how impossible it seems, it’s all fixable, and being vulnerable is worth the massive healing that you will experience because you’ve chosen to love fiercely again!

Choose vulnerability, choose risk, choose to love again.

Hugs,
~m 💓

Do you feel belonging?

Do other people feel belonging with you?

It all matters. You matter.

What creates belonging in you? Do it often.

Who does? Love them and keep them around.

I hope you feel belongingness today, friend. Your ideas matter to me. You matter to me.

xoxo

Thank you, my love (Jami), for the ever-growing magic!

The age-old myth is that coupleships have up to 3 years of that “magic” connection and passion and then that “newness” wears thin and a more settled love takes it’s place.

Hold on to your seats, because Jami and I absolutely disagree with this assertion. Why?

Because we have only had our interest for each other, our love, our connection and our passion increase exponentially over time, and it hasn’t stopped increasing.

How? Here are 3 daily tools:

* 20-second hugs w i t h o u t e x p e c t a t i o n s! Yep, that’s right, just hugging to connect. We promise, it works like magic. Oxytocin (the “love chemical”) never stops growing and thus is one way to produce it—boom! 💓
* Be present to your feelings and express them healthfully. If you have no idea where to begin shoot me a dm and I’ll give tools to help you express your feelings in every area of life instead of choosing to run away screaming as if you’re being chased by a very large grizzly bear. 😵😏🤣
* Share your deepest desires with your partner. Remember, oxytocin receptors continue to grow and multiply forever! There is no stopping point, until when you stop breathing…

Only three daily choices!

By finding your value, worth and empowerment and by feeling and expressing your feelings healthfully, nearly all past feelings of betrayal, isolation, and hurt can heal We promise that when these tools are practiced daily it is natural and easy to take your partner of over thirty-five years by both hands, look them deeply into their beautiful big, brown eyes and achieve a connection that is as fresh as the first magical kiss. The magic-sauce never has to fade!

xoxo

I have been feeling a depth of heartbreak that is so wide and so deep. Yes, some of it is mine, but what I’ve realized is that the weight of the world’s deep sadness has settled in.

And what I know today, after a full day of grieving the other day (ugly cry and all), is that it is so very important to feel it. I hadn’t realized that I had let it just stick there, in my throat, in my heart, in my gut.

Friends, it’s okay to let it out. Not just okay, but imperative to our emotional well-being as well as our physical. Our immune systems NEED US TO RELEASE the pain, anxiety, trauma, heartbreak so that we can embrace contentment, freedom, vulnerability, and joy.

There is still so much to be grateful for, to celebrate, and to feel joy about.

So, how???

🙏🏻 Express all the feels. Shout them out, cry them out, write them out. Just move them OUT of your body.
🙏🏻 Visualize and EMBRACE contentment, vulnerability, and joy.
🙏🏻 Write out at least 10 things you are grateful for.
🙏🏻 Sing, dance, and hug your loves and/or your pets.
🙏🏻 Rest, sleep, rest, sleep. It’s your bodies way of dealing with trauma.

Hugs and love to you all,
~m

Incredible weekend helping another couple push through blocks and choosing to joyfully and diligently heal forward…

Grateful. 🧡🙏🏻🤗

I am not ready to leave this gorgeous place but important work with a couple this weekend is afoot…🧡🤗🙏🏻

It’s my favorite things—adventure and helping couples heal forward!

This I know to be true.

Love a little deeper today, friends. Make every moment count...🧡

You don’t know what tomorrow will bring but when you live love out loud you will always know that you didn’t miss the most important part.

I feel you…🧡🙏🏻

It’s a beautiful adventure! 🧡🤗 (Yes, it snowwwwed one night and dipped down to 14. 😵🥶)

Happy International Women's Day to my beautiful girlfriends and to all of you other incredible women!!! You are all rock stars in my opinion. 💕😍💓🥰🍾🥂🎊💕

How are you today? No, really, how are you feeling??? If your answer is “Not awesome” then what are those not-so-great emotions? Sadness, confusion, pain, heartbreak, loneliness?

Whatever they are go ahead and write those feels on toilet paper and flush that s**t.

You deserve peace today. And this is a great way to find it because what we know is that simply getting those emotions out of your body simply by expressing them will begin to change those feels into positive ones.

Try it; I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised!

And these words below are my hope for you today…

xoxo