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Unity Post-Impeachment? by Imagine with Us • A podcast on Anchor

Unity Post-Impeachment? by Imagine with Us • A podcast on Anchor Welcome to Imagine with Us podcast with Rabbi Michael Lerner and Cat Zavis. In this episode, we discuss the failure of the Senate to convict Trump, Biden’s call for unity, and more! Tikkun Magazine - www.tikkun.org Network of Spiritual Progressives (NSP) - www.spiritualprogressives.org Email: cat@...

Companies profiting from the child detention centers

Boycott, call, protest, etc. These are companies profiting from the inhuman detention camps of this administration.

Companies profiting from the child detention centers These are the names of the companies profiting from the child detention centers, please contact them and tell them how you feel and share this page wildly.

Families Belong Together—Attend a June 30 Event!

Actions around the country planned on June 30th. To learn more, click here - https://act.moveon.org/…/families-belong-together_a…/search/.

Families Belong Together—Attend a June 30 Event! Donald Trump and his administration are cruelly separating children from their families. But we won't allow it to continue. On June 30, we're rallying in Washington, D.C., and around the country to tell Donald Trump and his administration to stop separating kids from their parents! Trump and his adm...

Resisting Structural Evil

This book is written by my dear friend Cynthia Moe-Lobeda. It's brilliant and we read a short excerpt from it in our Spiritual Activism Training. To learn more go to - https://spiritualprogressives.org/get-involved/spiritual-activism-training/

Resisting Structural Evil Love as Ecological-Economic Vocation

He Finds Out His Stepson Is Lying... Now Watch His Reaction. Unbelievable!

This is absolutely beautiful. Enjoy (and be sure to have some kleenex around!).

He Finds Out His Stepson Is Lying... Now Watch His Reaction. Unbelievable! Being a stepparent isn’t an easy task. Aside from wanting to be accepted by a spouse’s child, there’s often also a hope to be respected by the other parent. Despite the challenges that come along with being a stepparent, many have embraced the role, including the groom who shared lovely vows for his…

Love Wins! Lessons from the Movement for Marriage Equality

Love Wins! Lessons from the Movement for Marriage Equality Wow. For a brief moment I am feeling such gratitude for our Supreme Court—well, at least for five justices of the court! This is a time to celebrate. Gay and le***an couples are finally recognized for their commitment to love their partners just as any heterosexual couple does. What an amazing momen…

Do lawyers need coaching to change their mindset? | Online Divorce Advice II How to divorce amicably

Here is an interesting article on the value of coaches in divorce. If you are getting divorced and are feeling stuck in anger or grief, consider emailing me for a free consult to see how I might provide support to you during your divorce, making the process smoother and safer and more empowering. You can email me directly at [email protected]. http://alternativedivorcedirectory.co.uk/do-lawyers-need-coaching-to-change-their-mindset/

Do lawyers need coaching to change their mindset? | Online Divorce Advice II How to divorce amicably It was wonderful to be interviewed on Radio 4 Woman's Hour about getting on well with my Ex and his wife - but why is it that this should be seen a...

Hi All ~ Lots of BIG changes in my life that have left me a bit overwhelmed and busy so I haven't been as present here - sorry. I have moved from WA to CA to be with my life partner. I am still available for coaching and trainings and helping parents navigate co-parenting together or to support you in your transition. I hope you will contact me if you want support. The quickest way to get a hold of me is by emailing me at [email protected]. With warmth ~ cat

Some powerful words worth considering and sharing. What are your thoughts about this?

A letter to a friend:
Blended families are NEVER easy, but here's why I don't have a lot of sympathy for your situation because... we CHOOSE them. When I married Will, I knew Trey was part of the package...Period! If I didn't want that...I needed to marry someone else. Then I learned if I am going to love Trey...I had to learn to love the most important person in the world to him...his mother. And the two of us may not have always LIKED each other... but we have learned to LOVE each other.

I can't support any actions that keep a man from his children of a previous marriage. These are the situations that separate the women from the girls. Your behavior is that of an insecure child who needs to recognize her own weaknesses that MUST be strengthened to take on the task at hand. We can't say we love our man and then come in between him and his children. THAT'S selfishness...NOT love. WOMAN UP... I've been there...I know. My blended family made me a giant… Taught me so much about love, commitment and it has been the biggest ego death to date. It's time you let your blended family make you the giant you truly are.
J

Loving Our Steps - Support for Blended Families

Hi All ~ For those of you who struggle in blended families, a colleague of mine is offering a free teleclass to support you. Here is the information.

Thursday, May 8th, Noon-1:30 PM PST. We will be discussing keys to thriving as stepparents and in a blended family. For an accurate head count, please RVSP on http://www.meetup.com/LovingSteps/events/177931672/

On this call you will learn:

· Why 65% of families with stepchildren end in divorce within the first few years, and how to prevent this from happening to you!
· Key steps to successfully navigate the crucial step-parenting minefields and release patterns which keep you stuck in reactive mode & negative styles of communication
· tools from various therapeutic and spiritual traditions, so you can respond with compassion to your child, your partner, yourself, no matter how high the tensions can be in a stepfamily…

YOU CAN TAKE STEPS NOW TO ENSURE LASTING RESPECT, UNDERSTANDING AND LOVE WITH YOUR (STEP)CHILDREN—AND YOUR PARTNER!

Hope that you can join the call! Please feel free to reach out if you have questions or would like additional information.

Loving Our Steps - Support for Blended Families FREE 90 MINUTE TELECLASS: THURSDAY, MAY 8, NOON-1:30 PM ARE YOU IN A BLENDED OR ABOUT-TO-BLEND FAMILY? • Do you tend to put your needs on “hold”, while taking care of everyone else? • Do you want

Parenting with Your Ex - FREE Teleclass

Sign up for my free teleclass and discover important keys to parenting WITH your Ex instead of AGAINST them.

Parenting with Your Ex - FREE Teleclass Join me for this FREE Teleclass and discover important keys to parenting WITH your Ex instead of AGAINST your Ex. Your children will thank you later.

Sept. 11th, is my birthday and last year I sent out a video about my wishes for a moment of peace but I've been rather busy and had no time to make a new video this year. So here's the gist of the message.

September 11th is remembered because of the infamous "9/11" events but long before that day, Mahatma Gandhi began his nonviolent movement on 9/11. So please join me in honor of Mahatma Gandhi, nonviolent and peace in a moment of peace.

So, here's my wish - Would you be willing to take a minute at 12:00pm (your local time or Pacific Standard time if you are able) and sit in silence and imagine peace - in your heart, in your home, in your community and in the world? It will only take a minute of your time.

I hope to feel you then.

AND please share this with others - the more the merrier!!

Thanks everyone ~ cat

Showing Up for Love Program for Parents and Grandparents 12 Weeks Call Series

Please check out this awesome 12 week telesummit. I'll be participating on Oct. 15th call. Hope to "see" you there.

Showing Up for Love Program for Parents and Grandparents 12 Weeks Call Series Showing Up for Love Program for Parents and Grandparents 12 Weeks Call Series. Calls are each Tuesday and Thursday, Sept 10-Nov 28, 9:30-11:00am PT. Call recordings free with your registration of the program. You will be invited to our private online group. Register One Time for your PIN and use for...

Be Supportive Without Micromanaging

Be Supportive Without Micromanaging
My latest blog is about a way you can manage your child’s relationship with your Ex without micromanaging it. Click on the link below to read. I'd love to hear your feedback and please feel free to share this with your clients.
http://www.parentingwithyourex.com/?p=2371

Be Supportive Without Micromanaging Have you wondered how you could be committed to supporting your child’s relationship with your Ex without taking a “hands-on” kind of responsibility? Actually, there is a way to support your child’s relationship with your Ex without micromanaging it. That is if you are willing to let go of the small...

So Your Child’s Upset with Your Former . . . Now What?

So Your Child’s Upset with Your Former . . . Now What?

Here’s my latest blog about what to do when a child comes home from the other parent’s house complaining about the other parent. How can the parent respond and support the child without putting themselves in the middle? Click on the link below to read. I'd love to hear your feedback and please feel free to share this with your friends.
http://www.parentingwithyourex.com/?p=2369

So Your Child’s Upset with Your Former . . . Now What? I often hear from parents that they don’t know what to do when their child comes home from the other parent’s house complaining about the other parent. It is so hard to know how to respond so that you are supporting your child and not putting yourself in the middle. And sometimes you are so upset ab...

Powerful words on forgiveness

"I imagine forgiveness comes to us like a far-off song, and when your body is seized by that distant music, you can't fight it; your hips begin moving, then the rest of you, even if you can't really hear the damn melody, don't recognize the tune . . . What I mean to say is: I want to forgive my ex-husband. I don't want to die hating, or even resenting him. We will never make love, never even kiss again. Never. So where is that song of forgiveness, reputed to be so sweet?"

~ Gene Zeiger (quoted in Mediating Dangerously by Ken Cloke, p. 87)

Information Call about the Showing Up for Love - Parents and Grandparents 12 Wee

I will be interviewed on this telesummit on Oct. 15th. Lots of great presenters. I highly recommend you check it out.

Information Call about the Showing Up for Love - Parents and Grandparents 12 Wee Informational Call about Showing Up for Love Call Series. Ask Mair and Aya your questions! Three months of twice weekly calls Sept 10 through Nov 28 for PARENTS & GRANDPARENTS with Mair Alight, Aya Caspi & Special Guests. Calls available by phone or Skype.

To the Unwashed Masses of Mothers

Great article. Enjoy!

To the Unwashed Masses of Mothers I've seen you around. I've seen you screaming at your kids in public, I've seen you ignoring them at the playground, I've seen you unshowered and wearing last night's pajama pants at preschool drop-off. I've seen you begging your children, bribing them, threatening them. I've seen you shouting back…

Creating Change – Express YOUR NEEDS

Here's my latest blog to help divorced parents co-parent more effectively. To read the blog, please click on the link below. I'd love to hear your feedback and please feel free to share this with your friends. How to Create Change in Co-Parenting Dynamics - Express Your Needs http://www.parentingwithyourex.com/?p=2357

Creating Change – Express YOUR NEEDS In my work I often help clients figure out how to tell their spouse or former spouse why they are so upset and what they want. And yet often when I begin to explore what they really want, all they focus on is what they don’t want, what they are so upset about, what the other person is doing wrong,…

What a perfect quote for all of us . . .

Wisdom from Maya Angelou

Parenting With Your Ex

Had the third call in my program - Keep Your Kids Out of the Emotional Crossfire. Once again lots of amazing learning. This week we covered the 3rd stage of grieving - bargaining - and how to respond to your children when they complain about your former so that you deepen your connection with your child while supporting their relationship with the other parent as well. Lots of other gems too! I am SO loving this program and work.

If this speaks to you or if you know someone who could benefit from my work, I hope you'll send them to my webpage - www.parentingwithyourex.com

Parenting With Your Ex Parenting With Your Ex

The Trauma of Being Alive

Here's a great article on the impact of trauma in our lives. This is part of what I talk about and cover in my program - Parenting With Your Ex: Keep Your Kids Out of the Emotional Crossfire. Be gentle with yourself through this journey.

The Trauma of Being Alive An undercurrent of injury and disaster runs through ordinary life.

This is such a great example of how parents' often see situations. Try to see the situation from the other person's vantage point - I mean REALLY see it. Can you become curious, open, willing to see it differently? Not easy, but oh so important. If you can't do it, I can help you! Check out my website, www.parentingwithyourex.com for more helpful information.

How many do you see?

Another great call - week 2 of my program - Parenting With Your Ex: Keep Your Kids Out of the Emotional Crossfire. Folks reported that they used the tools I shared last week and it already created profound shifts in connection with their former spouse/spouse. I was so moved by the learning and growth. It is such an honor to do this work. Thank you.

Why Blaming Doesn’t Work

Here's my latest blog on BLAME - a topic we discussed on my first call of my program - Parenting With Your Ex: Keep Your Kids Out of the Emotional Crossfire.

Please let me know what you think of my blog by posting on my blog page directly.

In service ~ cat

http://www.parentingwithyourex.com/why-blaming-doesnt-work/

Why Blaming Doesn’t Work When we are upset because something is not going the way we want we often look to blame someone or something (including ourselves). Placing blame allows us to escape from the pain and discomfort of the situation and puts our attention and directs our energy elsewhere. It is a great escape mechani...

Just finished the first call of my 6-week program - Parenting With Your Ex: Keep Your Kids Out of the Emotional Crossfire. It was a great call - great participants and great content. I LOVE doing this work.

Here is some of what the participants had to say:

"Take a breath and don't respond quickly. Sometimes it seems like I'm in the ER!"
"Don't respond when uncomfortable - that is really powerful."
"Being aware of my feelings beneath my initial feelings - very powerful to see what it is when I'm really triggered. When you explored my feelings with me you took me to a sad place and that is a really different place. I can see how I can then express that and it might have a different impact and even if it doesn't, she will at least know where I'm coming from."
"Didn't realize I wasn't breathing - helpful to have that awareness"

I am so excited to be sharing this powerful work. There are 5 more weeks to go. If you are interested in joining the program (the calls are recorded so you can still listen to the first week), please private message me and I will help you get registered.

If you haven't downloaded your copy of my free report yet, you can do it here - http://statictab.com/gi5kp22

Enemy – NOT ME

Here's my latest blog on Enemy Images. Please share your thoughts below. Thanks ~ cat
http://www.parentingwithyourex.com/enemy-not-me/

Enemy – NOT ME I readily admit conjuring up an enemy image is far easier than creating a connection with someone, especially when I have zero attraction to that person or if I am struggling to overcome an enemy image based on our currently raw conflicts and disagreements. So how might one do this?

Keep Your Kids Out of the Emotional Crossfire

I'm excited to announce a new program beginning JULY 9th - special discounted price until July 1st.

Parenting With Your Ex: Keep Your Kids Out of the Emotional Crossfire.

Please share with others. To learn more go to: http://www.parentingwithyourex.com/keepkidsout/

Keep Your Kids Out of the Emotional Crossfire Attention Divorced and Divorcing Parents: Escape the Battlefield of Divorce And Experience a MAJOR SHIFT in How You Parent with Your Ex Do you feel

Enemy Images – The Wall of Separation

Enemy Images - What they are and How to Transform them

http://www.parentingwithyourex.com/enemy-images/

Enemy Images – The Wall of Separation I first learned the term “enemy image” in my NVC trainings from Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Nonviolent Communication. I have heard it used many times by NVC trainers and others since. I hold an enemy image as any judgment I hold about others or myself that creates separation or distance bet...

Nourishing ourselves really does help us transform and be present for our kids.