Jules Rutherford's Sobersistas

Jules Rutherford's Sobersistas

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This group has been established for women to explore the potential of life without alcohol. It is a supportive, loving, compassionate group of amazing women which looks at all aspects of mind, body and spirit and our relationship to alcohol. If you are an alcoholic please note that this group is not set up to support those with severe alcohol problems. You are more than welcome to join but if your

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24/01/2023

Starting the day with a candle, coffee and book. Not pills to get rid of a hangover. Almost 6 years sober.

23/01/2023
ON SALE! - My 30 Day Sobriety Journal | Sobersistas 22/01/2023

ON SALE! - My 30 Day Sobriety Journal | Sobersistas

Spending all your time thinking about quitting alcohol, then doing unfeasible mental gymnastics to start, then gritting your teeth and summoning all your willpower to avoid it is exhausting and likely to fail in the end.

You need to make YOU the project, not alcohol.

πŸ’œ Figuring out WHY you want to be sober - not just the avoidance of hangovers.

πŸ’™ Understanding WHAT you want - not just peace and a decent night's sleep.

πŸ’› Knowing WHO you want to become - not who you don't.

πŸ’š Getting to WHERE you want to be in life - not just not here.

❀ Deciding WHEN you're ready and committing - not failing at 100 Day Ones.

The only power alcohol has over you is the power you give it.

Get your journal here: http://bit.ly/3ZQGiKe

Deciding today that YOU are worth more than a scant 20 minutes of 'aaaaahhhh' followed by hours of slurring, bad behaviour and hangovers, is the key to successful sobriety.

My 30 Day Sobriety Journal has been specifically designed to show you how to make YOU the focus of giving up alcohol so you can begin the essential work of putting alcohol in its proper place.

😍 Define your goals, get your mindset ready and understand the true cost of your drinking.

😍 With Sobersistas unique, daily, MLT prompt that will help you begin the process of truly loving yourself.

😍 30 journal prompts to help you get the answers that are unique to you to help you move forward.

😍 A 30 Day Tracker, to help you stay accountable and be proud of your progress.

😍 A daily planner to ensure you can identify and overcome your triggers and cravings.

😍 Space for daily Gratitude and Affirmations.

😍 Undated so you can start when you're ready.

Buy it now: http://bit.ly/3ZQGiKe

If you've been thinking about stopping, this beautiful, unique journal will give you the start you need to stay sober and create the long-lasting change you need.

If you are white-knuckling sobriety and aren't convinced that you can stay sober in the long term, this journal will help you reframe your relationship with alcohol and give you the motivation and tools you need for long-term success.

On sale now at Β£13.99, less than the cost of 2 half-decent bottles of wine. Get it now! http://bit.ly/3ZQGiKe

ON SALE! - My 30 Day Sobriety Journal | Sobersistas Get your 30 Day Sobriety Journal. Beautifully Designed to get you ready to start your journey and keep you accountable for your first 30 sober days.

22/01/2023

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Would you be kind enough to spare me a few minutes to complete my survey. All who respond and leave their email address will be entered in a free prize draw to win My 30 Day Sobriety Journal.

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20/01/2023

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Win a free 30 Day Sobriety Journal!

Would you be kind enough to spare me a few minutes to complete my survey. All who respond and leave their email address will be entered in a free prize draw to win My 30 Day Sobriety Journal.

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ON SALE! - My 30 Day Sobriety Journal | Sobersistas 18/01/2023

ON SALE! - My 30 Day Sobriety Journal | Sobersistas

GET YOUR COPY NOW FOR ONLY Β£13.99!!!

πŸ’œ Are you ready to focus on 30 days of sobriety?

πŸ’œ My 30 Day Sobriety Journal will give you 80+ pages to help you get ready to give up alcohol for 30 days.

πŸ’œ Explore your relationship with alcohol.

πŸ’œ Daily planner and 30 unique journal prompts.

πŸ’œ 30 Day Tracker.

πŸ’œ Space for Gratitude, Affirmations, Sobersistas unique MLT prompt and much more!

πŸ’œ Beautifully designed to inspire you during your sober month.

πŸ’œ My 30 Day Sobriety Journal will give you 80+ pages to help you get ready to give up alcohol for 30 days.

Explore your relationship with alcohol.
βœ’οΈ Daily planner – set your sober intentions for the day
βœ’οΈ 30 unique journal prompts
βœ’οΈ 30 Day Tracker
βœ’οΈ Space for Gratitude & Affirmations
βœ’οΈ Sobersistas unique MLT prompt and much more!

πŸ’œ πŸ’œ πŸ’œ Beautifully designed to inspire you during your sober month.

Get your copy here:

ON SALE! - My 30 Day Sobriety Journal | Sobersistas Get your 30 Day Sobriety Journal. Beautifully Designed to get you ready to start your journey and keep you accountable for your first 30 sober days.

17/01/2023

Choose now. The moment you acknowledge that alcohol is becoming a problem for you is the moment you should stop.

If you keep drinking, the negotiation, the failures, the self flagellation - all of it will bring you further and further down and keep you drinking more for longer.

You will go back and forth between drinking and not drinking. You will tell yourself any lie you need to so that you can drink. You will have 2 sober days and think you're making good progress and then drink because you had a bad day.

What follows is you making yourself your own punching bag.

When you finally 'get it' and stop, you will be exhausted and will have reached your limit.

Why not stop now, this second, this moment so that you can avoid all of the mental pain you will put yourself through.

I promise you, this will be the very worst part of stopping drinking.

There is lots of help here for you to support you in a loving compassionate way:

Sobersistas Private Facebook Group here: https://bit.ly/3FtdbVG

Get your 30 Day Sobriety Journal here: https://amzn.to/3JioaRE
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My 30 Day Sobriety Journal: All the support you need for your alcohol free month 11/01/2023

My 30 Day Sobriety Journal: All the support you need for your alcohol free month

Only Β£13.99 - packed with all the information and support you need for a successful sober month.

My 30 Day Sobriety Journal: All the support you need for your alcohol free month Are you ready to focus on 30 days of sobriety? My 30 Day Sobriety Journal will give you 80+ pages to help you get ready to give up alcohol for 30 days. Explore your relationship with alcohol. Daily planner and 30 unique journal prompts. 30 Day Tracker. Space for Gratitude, Affirmations, Sobersist...

10/01/2023
09/01/2023

Are you ready for long-lasting change?

You know you're ready to live life without alcohol, but you aren't confident that you know how to. Now, after years, maybe even decades of trying to figure it out on your own, you know you're ready for long-lasting change but are worried that you will slip back to drinking.

In '6 SIMPLE STEPS TO GIVE UP ALCOHOL FOR GOOD IN 2 WEEKS' I will give you the steps you need to do to move forward and finally create the life that you've been waiting for.

This is for you if...

❀ You're certain that life without alcohol will be exciting and fulfilling but don't know how to start living that life.

❀ You want to wake up every day feeling a sense of excitement and motivation as you work towards your goals.

❀ You dream of living your life to the fullest without alcohol holding you back.

How this works...

I know how it feels to feel overwhelmed by the next step. So I've made this simple!

STEP ONE
Just click the link below to get started and sign up for your 6 Simple Steps To Give Up Alcohol For Good In Two Weeks.

STEP TWO
Sign up, so we know exactly where to send everything!

STEP THREE
Check your inbox in the next few minutes to download your files.

It's THAT easy!!

Hi there, I'm Jules,

I work with women who are in various stages of menopause and realise that alcohol no longer has a place in their lives, helping them let go of it with ease so they can live life free of hangovers, shame and guilt.

I have been sober since 2017 and I have had a pretty interesting and adventurous life but by far the best adventure I've ever been on is my own sobriety.

I work with women who are in various stages of menopause and realise that alcohol no longer has a place in their lives, helping them let go of it with ease so they can live a life free of hangovers, shame and guilt.

Get your fresh start here: http://bit.ly/3IyuFBE

08/01/2023

Getting alcohol out of your life is a joyful choice in favour of YOU!

When I reached 3 weeks sober I had a revelation that changed me forever.

I was crying tears of joy in a Spanish street. At first I was horrified and weirded out, what on earth was going on?!

Then I realised, THIS is what happy people feel like. It struck me like a punch in the gut that initially I didn't recognise it. The last times I felt truly elated in this same way were the two days I gave birth.

From that day onwards I have loved every sober day.

Yes, I have bad days - that is the human experience - but I know that no matter how bad they get, alcohol will NEVER make them better.

If it's been in your mind to give up, do it today, now, this second and love every moment from here on in.

It will be one of the best decisions you will ever make.

If you want to find out more about Sobersistas and how I can help you find your joy there is lots of information available on my website: www.sobersistas.co.uk

07/01/2023

It's always gratifying to receive praise for something I created but this is the first physical journal I have published and I am so delighted that its having the kind of impact I wanted it to have.

Amy said:
I just wanted to thank you Jules for working so hard on all the tools to bring to us and publishing this journal. And wow...it's more than I expected. I really love the prompts and check offs. And like I thought, it's helping me feel positive and inspired about not drinking!! Thank you for creating this!

You can start your transformation to your liberated life here: https://amzn.to/3GKeb81

06/01/2023

How do you FEEL about giving up alcohol?

What was the first thing that jumped into your mind as you read the sentence above? Do you feel angry, sad, excited...?

The feeling that you feel the most about giving up is what will dictate your approach to giving up. If you feel any of the negative emotions about giving up, it's likely that you will struggle because you don't have a positive view of what the giving up process will be like or what sober life will be like in the long term.

You might say that it's not possible to change how you feel, but you do this all of the time. The foulest mood can easily be lifted by a baby's smile, a dog's welcome or a hug from someone who loves you unconditionally. So you can choose.

If you have negative feelings about giving up work out how you can change that.

Don't forget, sobriety is not a deprivation, it's a liberation.

Start your journey to freedom here: https://amzn.to/3GKeb81

My 30 Day Sobriety Journal: All the support you need for your alcohol free month 01/01/2023

My 30 Day Sobriety Journal: All the support you need for your alcohol free month

Journaling is a powerful tool to help you get your racing thoughts in order. Combined with a daily planner and you're on track for a successful month.

My 30 Day Sobriety Journal has been uniquely designed to support your first 30 sober days, with 30 daily journal prompts, space to set your intentions, plan your sober day and so much more...it's a bargain at only Β£13.99.

Available on Amazon now: https://amzn.to/3JioaRE

Order now to get it in time for Dry January!

Much love always, Jules ###

My 30 Day Sobriety Journal: All the support you need for your alcohol free month Are you ready to focus on 30 days of sobriety? My 30 Day Sobriety Journal will give you 80+ pages to help you get ready to give up alcohol for 30 days. Explore your relationship with alcohol. Daily planner and 30 unique journal prompts. 30 Day Tracker. Space for Gratitude, Affirmations, Sobersist...

01/01/2023

Happy New Year - Are you ready for 2023?

I hope you had a wonderful Christmas and you're ready for a fantastic 2023!

If you'd like to come and join us for our mindful sober month, here's the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sobersistasgroup

If you would like a free PDF to help you get ready to give up you can get it here: https://bit.ly/3iSuqGL

Set Your Intentions 01/01/2023

Set Your Intentions

FREEBIE ALERT - Get Help With Your Triggers

One of the most challenging aspects of quitting alcohol is dealing with the things, people, situations etc that trigger you to drink.

Did you know that a powerful way to handle your triggers is to set your intentions ahead of time?

When you think about what you intend to do when you feel triggered you're more likely to leap over that obstacle so you can stay confidently on your sober path.

I've created a worksheet for you which will help you get clear about what triggers you to drink and how to set your intentions to do something other than give in when it really matters.

You can get your free copy here:

Set Your Intentions

31/12/2022

Happy New Year! (Pls share if you can)

When I look at this Drinking Me picture all I see is sadness and pain. When this pic was taken I was drinking every day but holding down a good job and doing well.

But, I was exhausted and wrung out. It took me another 5 years to stop drinking and obviously the transformation you can see to Happy Me didn't happen overnight.

But, from very soon after I stopped drinking I realised that sober is what happy people feel like.

I've been sober since 2017 and since then, these are the things that have transformed in my life other than how I look:

❀ I sleep REALLY well - every night
❀ I am positive and upbeat 99% of the time
❀ When I hit obstacles and bumps in life's road, I am able to overcome them
❀ I have a clarity of mind that blows me away
❀ I have come to love myself
❀ I am my authentic self every day
❀ I have improved my diet
❀ I even, occasionally, do some exercise
❀ I coach women to help them get sober and feel like this is the work I was born to do
❀ I am kind and compassionate with others in ways I never was before
❀ My closest relationships are more connected and loving than ever
❀ I am in control of my life, every day

❀❀❀❀ And yes, I feel really good about how I look.

If you would like to start your transformation in 2023, come and join us in Sobersistas Private Facebook Group where you will receive love and compassion and lots of support on your journey back to yourself: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sobersistasgroup

Happy New Year!
Much love always, Jules. ###

31/12/2022

SET YOUR INTENTIONS FOR YOUR TRIGGERS

Here is a little exercise to help you get ready for 2023.

Many of you will be starting your sober journey around now and I know you can be feeling a little jittery about what’s ahead. Very often what derails your desire to be sober is not being clear about what to do when you have triggers or cravings.

Setting your intentions for what you will do in the situations that typically trigger you can be a powerful way of planning ahead and ensuring that you have some strategies in your pocket at critical moments.

Take a few minutes to list the people, places, situations and times when you are typically triggered. If you’ve never thought about this before it can be quite revealing to discover that it’s chopping vegetables that brings alcohol to mind!

Once you have your list, for each one complete the following sentence:

When I am triggered by ________________________, I will __________________________.

Sign and date it and commit to following through. You will likely find that doing this exercise will remind you the next time these things happen.

For example, if it’s making dinner that makes you reach for the wine, then could you prepare your dinner at lunch time? If it’s someone in your life who seems incapable of drinking alone that triggers you, can you invent an urgent thing you have to do?

If you are struggling to think about a way to hurdle over your triggers ask yourself this question:

When I am feeling triggered what is the most loving thing I can do in that moment?

This should help you find a loving solution that works for you and those you love.

I've created a little workbook to help you along with it which you can get for free here: http://bit.ly/3i26kJv.

30/12/2022

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. (Wayne Dyer)

Have you ever wondered that the way you look at sobriety is keeping you drinking?

If you believe it will be hard, a struggle or impossible to succeed - it will be.

If you believe that sober life will be boring and you'll be bored - you will be.

If you believe your relationship will fail if you stop drinking with your partner - it will.

BUT, if you change the way you look at sobriety you might find the hope and inspiration you need to quit drinking for good.

If you believe it's not just possible, but easier than you think to give up - it will be. (It is by the way!)

If you believe that your sober life will open up a world of new opportunities for you - it will. (It does!)

If you believe that your sobriety will provide you with the clarity of mind so that you can have the kind of relationship you truly want - you will. (You definitely can!)

If you've had enough of the negative view from your perspective and are ready to change your view, you can get the support you need in our lovely private facebook group. Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sobersistasgroup

30/12/2022

Write, write, write......

30/12/2022

Are you ready for a mindful sober month?

❓ Now that the festivities are over is your body, mind and spirit crying out for a break from alcohol?

❓ Or have you been thinking for a while that it's time to kick alcohol out of your life so you can do something more fulfilling with your life?

❓ Perhaps you have realised that alcohol is playing too big a role in your life?

Whatever your reason, I would like to invite you to join us in our lovely private Facebook group where I will be doing a month long series of live workshops to help you have a successful sober month.

Join me and your fellow Sobersistas for January’s Sober Mindful Month.

I know that many of you wait until the first of the month to get started on your sober journey. It’s a great way to keep track of your progress throughout the month.

If you are sick and tired of the hangovers, shame, guilt, feelings of failure and fear of what a sober life really entails then I hope you will come and join us during January for Your Sober Mindful Month.

Using proven mindful techniques that I have adapted for Sobersistas, we will work through the key elements that you need to tackle during your first sober month.

In these 5 free sessions we will be covering:

1. Intro – key tips and ideas to get you started.
2. Overcome your fears
3. Redefine your relationship with alcohol
4. Understand what you really need and how to get it
5. Future you

During the whole of January I will be delivering a series of free workshops in our private Facebook Group about how you can use mindfulness to let go of alcohol for good and start living a life of joy and freedom.

Here is an outline to what’s happening in each session. (You can join us here: https://bit.ly/3FtdbVG)

Sunday 1st January @ 7.00 pm UK TIME
πŸ’š Introduction to the month ahead.
πŸ’š What is mindfulness.
πŸ’š Practical, mindful and spiritual tips to start the month confidently.
πŸ’š Learn the 3 Minute Mindfulness Technique to quickly achieve a state of calm when you really need it.
πŸ’š Get your free pdf download – Get Ready to Give Up – 5 Top Tips here: https://bit.ly/3iSuqGL

Wednesday 4th January @ 7.30pm UK TIME
πŸ’› Overcome your fears
πŸ’› Join me for a discussion about the common fears that stop you from giving up and how to overcome them.
πŸ’› Use mindfulness to get clear about what is holding you back.

Tuesday 10th January @ 7.30 pm UK TIME
πŸ’™ Get clear about the role alcohol plays in your life
πŸ’™ How you can change your relationship with it.
πŸ’™ Mindfulness exercises to help change your mindset.
πŸ’™ Use Sobersistas unique MLT technique to support your sober goals

Tuesday 24th January @ 7.30 pm UK TIME
πŸ’œ Did you know that very often we turn to alcohol when we need something else entirely?
πŸ’œ I will be sharing a powerful mindfulness practice that will help you get the clarity you need to help you stay sober.

Tuesday 31st January @ 7.30 pm UK TIME
❀️ Find out how to get clear about what you're aiming for and what kind of person sober you really is.
❀️ We will be having a discussion about your future self.
❀️ I will be doing a live version of the Future You Guided Visualisation.

You can join us here: https://bit.ly/3FtdbVG

Much love always, Jules ###

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