𝐏𝐬𝐬𝐭, 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐚 𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬?
Separate yourself from your business - your business is not your life.
The more you treat them as two separate entities, the more you will take action, because you are separating the performance, from the performer (you).
At its best, a business is something apart from you whose sole intention is to effectively and sustainably get and keep customers. The more successfully it does that, the more it can then benefit your life in multiple ways, such as financial freedom, time freedom, reputation, and your ability to help others ....
Big things can happen when you shift your thinking to realise that the purpose of your life is not to serve your business, but instead that the primary purpose of your business is to serve 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞.
This then mentally frees you to focus as much attention as possible on 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐎𝐍 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐈𝐍 𝐢𝐭. On growing value and impact, not just doing a 'good job'. On creating something that works without you, not around you.
That becomes your primary goal each day and a powerful motivating WHY.
At TAB (The Alternative Board UK), we talk about a bicycle. Often the front wheel is your business or job, and the back wheel is your life driving that forward. Personal and business goals become blurred, and work can be all-consuming.
We believe instead, that it should and needs to be the other way around. That 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐢𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐯𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐢𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭.
This is a game-changer. When you have this perspective, business decisions become easier, filtered against the criteria of "will that take me towards my personal goal or away from it".
Are you building a business or a job?
Like to know more?
Get in touch and let's have a chat about how this shift in thinking could help you in 2023 and beyond.
YOUR VISION Coaching
The Next Step Coach - Helping you to confidently take the next step in your business, career & life
🔹 Confidently take the next step in your business/career & life 🔹 Understand your direction, values, strengths & beliefs 🔹 Master positive habits & your money mindset 🔹 Create a life you love 🔹 me&dee trustee 🔹
Operating as usual
𝐏𝐬𝐬𝐭, 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐚 𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬?
Are you feeling increased pressure due to the time of year?
𝐆𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐚 𝐟𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐠𝐢𝐟𝐭 - 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐠𝐢𝐟𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 ⌚.
Whatever you've got on, make time to pause regularly, even for a minute or two, close your eyes and just breathe. It will be time well spent.
Focus on the rhythm of your breathing and let your thoughts settle. Just like a snow globe, it doesn't take long for things to become calmer and clearer. Quietly then ask yourself "What's next?". Trust your instincts.
List writing can be great at helping keep you on track, but can also load the pressure on further with seemingly endless things to be done. It can really get crazy when you start writing lists of your lists!
If you have an overwhelming muti-tasking challenge, aim to be strategic in approaching it:
1.) Go item by item and see what can be dropped or delayed. Put it on a 𝐝𝐨-𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐫 𝐧𝐨𝐭-𝐭𝐨-𝐝𝐨 𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭 if it makes you happier that the task won't be forgotten. Delete and delay.
2.) Go down the list again. Ask yourself, "Do I need to be doing this? 𝐢𝐟 𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐬𝐧'𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞, 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐞𝐥𝐬𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐨𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐝𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬?". Delegate.
We can believe we need to do it all, That it's 'easier'. Often that is simply not true, It is our ego's way of trying to be in control and for us to stay 'needed'.
Instead, who else could complete some of your tasks? Give them enough guidance and support to take ownership, and for them to do it successfully, then leave them to it. It may not be your way, but it will be done, so let that be okay.
3.) Finally, 𝐩𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐭𝐨𝐩 3 𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐝𝐚𝐲, and then put the list away until they are finished. If you crack through them, you can always go back and pick three more.
Chunk this time and festive frenzy down. Step by step, you'll get there.
Slow down to speed up
Are you local to Derby/Belper and want to get focused for 2023?
Join local women in business in this relaxed and friendly session
Sharing this for anyone who might need this. Please share on…..
What would you love to do, but fear and self-doubt are getting in your way?
What if, you were 𝐠𝐮𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐞𝐝 to succeed, what would you do then?
Take a minute to pause and think. It's a powerful question because it challenges you to really consider what you are drawn to doing, maybe a passion project, yet are holding yourself back from having a go.
𝐖𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐥𝐢𝐦𝐛 𝐊𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐣𝐚𝐫𝐨, 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬, 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐨𝐧 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐟𝐟, 𝐦𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐀𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐚, 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐚 𝐩𝐮𝐛𝐥𝐢𝐜 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐫, 𝐥𝐚𝐮𝐧𝐜𝐡 𝐚 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐝𝐮𝐜𝐭/𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐢𝐜𝐞, 𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐤 𝐚 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐫, 𝐚𝐝𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐫 𝐝𝐨 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 ......
If there is something you know you are holding back from doing, grab a piece of paper and write down all the reasons why. Dig deep. What is really stopping you?
Now look at that list and ask yourself, how likely are those things, and if it didn't go quite to plan, what's the worst that would happen?
As the saying goes, better to try and fail, than never try at all.
As we head towards the end of the year, what have you put off doing in 2022?
When you're in your retirement home looking back on life, would you rather know you had a go, or that you'd got in your own way, and regret letting those fears stop you from even trying?
Feeling like you're on a hamster wheel, stuck in the daily grind, bored, frustrated or numbing yourself from reality? Ready to shift gear, elevate yourself, your thinking, your career/business, and have a spring in your step?
Now is a perfect time to take stock of where you are, where you want to get to, and identify the next key steps to take you there.
I am passionate about helping people to move forward in their life, business and thinking. Why?
Because I've had an epiphany. Now that might sound a bit OTT, however, I realised during Lockdown that life is full of opportunities, and that the fun starts when you say yes to them more often 😍. When you step out of the mundane, and the blame game, and start taking personal responsibility for actually creating the life you want to live.
Months and years fly by so fast, and the danger is you can end up wondering "How did I get here"? (Yes, that Talking Heads song Once in a Lifetime is often an earworm of mine 🤣) .
If you too are fed up with treading water and want to want to live a life full of inspiration, freedom, and fulfilment, get in touch today.
What are you reading, listening to, or watching at the moment?
What fuel are you feeding your mind? It's as important as how you fuel your body.
In almost every area of life, to EARN MORE you need to LEARN MORE - and then apply it!
Knowledge isn't power alone. Implementation of that knowledge, in your own tailored way, is where the true power kicks in.
Almost all top entrepreneurs and business professionals share a common trait - they are constant learners. There is a clue there for us all.
5 simple ways to start 𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐮𝐩 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 -
1.) 𝐆𝐞𝐭 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠/𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 - pick a skill or area that you want to get great at and go deep. Immerse yourself in the leading books, videos etc on that topic.
2.) 𝐋𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐚 𝐦𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 - If someone has already done what you aspire to, study what they did/do & build on it. Success leaves clues. Learn from their years of experience & mistakes - so you don't have to make the same ones!
3.) 𝐁𝐞 𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 & 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐬 - keep a journal with you (or make notes on your phone) & capture key ideas & insights throughout the day. When things happen not to plan, as they inevitably will, simply say "That's interesting" and curiously seek the lesson to be learned.
4.) 𝐒𝐞𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 - put yourself in places & with people who'll support your learning journey
5.) 𝐁𝐞 𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲 - seek new ways to apply your knowledge & skills through your actions and adding value to others. The more value you provide, the more you increase your potential to earn.
Where do you want to level up your thinking, knowledge, and skills? Pick an area, focus on it, implement what lands for you, then move on to the next.
Why have I chosen to work with TAB (The Alternative Board UK) alongside running my own coaching business?
I've been asked this several times recently, so thought I'd share it here.
Through YOUR VISION Coaching, I have the absolute honour of working with women in business, including founders and other incredible professionals.
Together we work on elevating their thinking, self-awareness, confidence, clarity, vision, routines and self-belief, as well as goal-setting, prioritisation and celebrating progress.
Coaching is focused holistically on developing who they are as a person and creating a life they love.
I offer 121 coaching programmes especially around taking The Next Step in :
4️⃣ Money Mindset
5️⃣ Personal Clarity
Much of this is delivered online, although our 𝐒𝐮𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐂𝐥𝐮𝐛 is aiming to meet in person again before Christmas. We'll celebrate all that has been acheived in 2022 and set our intentions and aspirations for the head ahead (DM me if you would like to know more!).
𝐓𝐀𝐁 fits incredibly well with this ethos.
Membership is particularly beneficial for owners who have a more established business and team, Those who are looking to grow themselves, their sales/profits/team, and have a more balanced and enjoyable life, through the support, advice and accountability of a peer board, alongside having a coach.
I love the TAB service proposition, which has been proven over many years across the world. The fact that on average, members stay 4.5 years on a peer advisory board, with no annual contracts, is testiment to the value and genuine support this format provides business owners.
For me personally, I also get to be part of a team again, lead by Derby and East Midlands Franchisee Max Crosby-Browne. I also get to work in an office again and alongside fantastic fellow TAB Coach Facilitators Phil Dobson, Jimi Ball Julian Smith and Paul Male, as well as the rest of the team.
Between TAB and Your Vision Coaching, I now enjoy a great mix of working from home and being out and about. Coaching and mentoring male and female business owners and professionals across a spectrum of business sizes and sectors.
They say variety is the spice of life, and I love it!
Like to know more and understand what might be the best fit for you? DM me today and let's set up a call.
Do you believe in the Law of Attraction?
It's a fascinating topic which I first came across when watching 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑺𝒆𝒄𝒓𝒆𝒕 on NetFlix, and have heard mentioned many times since.
Does such a law exist in nature, similar to that of gravity, motion or magnetism?
I was recently reminded about it when Sharon Lewin of Hive of Design Ltd very kindly gave me a 10th anniversary edition of 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑺𝒆𝒄𝒓𝒆𝒕, which I have had my nose in since.
Why the reference to the Genie? In the book, it connects the two. The Genie is the law of attraction. It assumes everything you think about, speak about and act upon you want - so as the saying goes, be careful what you wish for!
The big question - if this law does exist, why don't more people benefit from it?
Again similar to yesterday's post, it is about 𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲 and the consistency of that thinking. About believing that you are capable and you are good enough to receive all that you want in life.
Most of us are unclear about what we actually want, and instead tend to 𝐟𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭, which can actually attract more of it.
Our attention, thinking and language often go into finding things 'hard' and stressful, to lack of money or opportunities, to being overworked or overwhelmed, and things being a 'nightmare'.
According to the book, you then start sending that vibration out to the world and it attracts back the same like a magnet. It also sets the filters in our brain to actually be looking for more of the same.
So how do you break that cycle?
'1️⃣ Be crystal clear and 𝐀𝐒𝐊 specifically for what you 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 in life, your career or business
2️⃣ 𝐁𝐄𝐋𝐈𝐄𝐕𝐄 that it is already yours. Act, speak and think as though you are receiving it now. You don't need to know how, just believe that it is. Visualise it and make it as real as possible to you.
3️⃣ 𝐑𝐄𝐂𝐄𝐈𝐕𝐄 put yourself in the mindset/vibration that will attract the things that you want. Feel good and feel grateful for all that you already have and more will show up. Like attracts like.
Whether you believe in the Law of Attraction or not. there is no doubt that getting very clear on what you want makes a big difference. Also focusing on gratitude for all that you do have, and regularly recognising and celebrating your progress, have the genuine power to attract more of the same.
Have you ever experienced the Law of Attraction? I'd love to hear how.
Are you treading water, or stuck in one lane?
Feeling like you're not moving substantially forward with your business, career, finances, or life?
That time is drifting by week after week?
You might think it is fear holding you back. Fear of failure. Fear of success. Fear of being visible, judged or ridiculed ...
What if it was something else that was really stopping you - 𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐨𝐟 𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲?
You'll have heard of the need to start with your why. To know your mission, vision, purpose and goals. Your avatar, your niche, your key messaging and strategies, your dream life .....
Have you really taken the time to build and maintain that clarity? Have you given it proper and consistent focus and attention?
If not, life can feel like you are walking on quicksand, scatter gunning ideas and actions with little success, or aimlessly repeating the same things, hoping to get a different result.
𝐃𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭, 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐢𝐭, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐮𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚 𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐝 𝐟𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐮𝐩𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐜𝐡 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐝.
Don't give it lip service. Put the effort in and you will be rewarded:
✅ Clarity leads to Courage
✅ Courage leads to action
✅ Action leads to Confidence
If you're struggling to move forward, start by going back - back to basics, and properly building that solid foundation.
As Rudyard Kipling famously said
“𝐈 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐬𝐢𝐱 𝐡𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐞𝐧; (𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐭𝐚𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐦𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐈 𝐤𝐧𝐞𝐰)
𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐧𝐚𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧
𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐖𝐡𝐨.”
Need help building that clarity, personal or business vision? Get in touch today or book a free and confidential next-step clarity call.
What can you do in 30 days?
As the Christmas adverts start to flood our screens, it's a reminder that there are just 6 weeks before most people clock off for the festive period.
That means around 30 working days.
How will YOU choose to use that time?
The clearer your (written) plan, the less likely you are to be derailed by all the physical and mental distractions.
If you can achieve one more key thing this year, in your business, career or life, what will it be?
What goals or intentions have you set previously that you really want to complete?
What is keeping you awake at night, that needs to be sorted?
What is niggling at you that just needs some time and attention to tackle?
What will you regret NOT doing?
Take 5 minutes and really consider how you will use this time most effectively and enjoyably.
What can and will you do to end 2022 on a high?
What are your priorities in life?
How often do you really, deeply think about them?
It is a valuable exercise to undertake regularly, as those considerations can keep you on track and feeling aligned.
Take 5 mins now and give yourself the space to think. What are the top 3 things that are truly most important to you?
How much of your attention and energy do you actually spend on these things, rather than getting lost in the minutia of life?
It is so easy to lose sight of them in the busyness of day-to-day living.
What can you do today to ensure they get more of the attention they deserve?
For me, my top three are :
1. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐢𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫-𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐦 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞𝐭𝐲, 𝐰𝐞𝐥𝐥-𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐪𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐦𝐲 𝐟𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐲.
I also have to keep ensuring I include myself in that! I want/need to be fit for life in order to fully enjoy and be there for loved ones for all the years on this planet I am gifted
2. 𝐓𝐨 𝐛𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝/𝐦𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐨𝐦
Through powerfully serving clients and paying attention to wealth creation in all its forms
Because this brings choices and opportunities.
3. 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐮𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐭𝐡
Through having an open, learning mindset and a desire to keep exploring through studying, reading, travelling, spending time around inspiring people and having great conversations.
These priorities are at the core of my being, and yet still I regularly allow myself to get distracted, and to endlessly procrastinate - and that's okay. To err is human, to forgive divine (particularly yourself!).
Through self-awareness, you can keep nudging yourself back on track, refocusing on your priorities, and using them as your life's north star.
Videos (show all)
Contact the school
|Tuesday||09:00 - 17:00|
|Wednesday||09:00 - 04:30|
|Thursday||08:00 - 17:00|
|Friday||09:00 - 15:30|