Stearne Birkenstock's 'The Power of You' - Life Coaching

You’re Ready. Start Now. 🏃🏾‍♂️- Stop waiting to “feel ready” or “good enough.” The truth? You grow by stepping into the unknown, by trying things you think you can’t do yet. Confidence doesn’t come first—action does.

Every step you take outside your comfort zone builds the person you’re becoming. So take the leap. You’re more capable than you think. 💪🔥

Read this twice: Loving someone and feeling good around them are NOT the same thing. You can love a person deeply, but if they leave you drained, anxious, or doubting yourself—that’s a problem. 🚩

Having feelings for someone vs how they make you feel? That matters! Pay attention. Protect your peace. Surround yourself with people who lift you up, not weigh you down. 💪✨

The things you can’t control are stealing your energy. Let them go.
Holding onto what’s beyond your reach only weighs you down.

Instead, shift your focus to what IS in your hands - the choices, actions, and mindset that shape your life. ✨

Breathe it out, let it go, and watch how much lighter you feel. You’ve got this. 💪

Sometimes, the hardest step forward is the one that takes you away from what feels familiar. But the thing is: comfort zones don’t create breakthroughs. 💡

You’re meant for more, and that “more” requires courage - courage to say goodbye to old patterns, outdated relationships, and limiting beliefs. 🌟

The life you deserve is waiting on the other side of discomfort. So take the leap, even if it feels scary. Your future self will thank you.

When you look in the mirror, it’s not just about loving what you see right away. Some days, you might not feel that love, and that’s okay. Start by respecting yourself. 🫡

If you can’t quite respect it yet, lift yourself up and encourage the person staring back at you. You are worthy of support, care, and kindness—every single day. 💪❤️

What you focus on grows. Spend your time complaining, and you’ll find more reasons to be unhappy. Dwell in anger, and it will consume you. But if you choose optimism, you’ll start to see the good everywhere.

Your mindset is a magnet—attract what you want by being intentional about your thoughts.

Talk to yourself with the same kindness you would offer to someone you love. If the words you’re thinking wouldn’t uplift a friend, don’t say them to yourself. True self-love and compassion start with treating yourself gently. Speak to yourself with the respect and encouragement you deserve. ✨ 



Focus on finding someone who truly nourishes your soul - someone who supports your growth, respects your values, and brings joy into your life.

Your partner should make you feel understood, appreciated, and loved for who you are. Trust your intuition and choose what feels right for you, not what looks good on the outside.

Your words carry immense power, often more than you realise. A simple remark, thrown out casually, might fade from your memory but could echo in someone else’s heart for a lifetime.

Before you speak, pause and consider the impact. Choose words that uplift, inspire, and heal. Remember, kindness costs nothing but means everything.

Embrace the power of renewal and let go of the past. Yesterday is behind you, and no amount of regret can change it. Focus on what you can do today. Release the burden of ‘should have’ and step into the present with purpose.

Today is a fresh start, a new opportunity to take action and shape your future. Seize it and move forward with intention.

Success starts with knowing exactly what you want. Too many people are guided by external expectations rather than their true desires. 😍

The crucial question is, ‘What do I truly want?’ 🤔Once you have that clarity, align every action and decision with your vision. When you focus on your genuine goals, life has a way of opening up the right opportunities for you. Stay true to your vision, and let it lead your way. 👉🏽

Sometimes it just feels easier to ‘let sleeping dogs lie’ and hope that in time, things will simply go back to normal. But here’s the thing, misunderstandings in relationships can create emotional distance if left unaddressed. 🫢

It’s essential to communicate openly and honestly with your partner. Take the time to clear up any confusion and resolve conflicts before they grow. 🕊️

A small conversation today can prevent a big gap tomorrow. Prioritise your connection by addressing issues head-on and with compassion. Strong relationships are built on trust, understanding, and continuous communication. 🗣️🗣️💞

🤔 Ever wonder why the same types of people keep showing up in your life? It’s not a coincidence; it’s a lesson. 🌟

When you find yourself facing familiar challenges with different faces, it’s the universe urging you to learn and grow. Embrace the opportunity to reflect on what these encounters are teaching you about yourself. 💡

Next time you meet someone who feels all too familiar, pause and ask: What lesson am I supposed to learn here? Once you understand and grow, you’ll break the cycle and invite new, enriching experiences into your life. 🌱✨

💓In just a heartbeat, what we choose to say can mend fences or forge lasting bonds. It’s about more than just uttering phrases - it’s about filling them with the intention to connect and heal. Think about the strength it takes to say “I love you,” or “I apologise.”

Consider the peace that comes when we ask, “Can we talk?”—it’s a doorway to understanding and forgiveness. 🌼

The grace and humility in saying, “You were right.” It’s not just about conceding a point; it’s about valuing the relationship over the ego. It’s a choice to prioritise harmony and growth. 🌱

In every interaction, challenge yourself to choose words that nurture rather than divide. Let our words be the keys that unlock a richer, more connected life.❤️

18 Mays ago, this man came into my life. When we met, I was actively interviewing for ‘The One’. You say ‘dating’, I say ‘interviewing’. 🤭 Had I shared this with my husband back then, he would have “run for the hills”. 🏃🏼‍♂️💨

But after a couple of relationships that ended suddenly, at 33, I didn’t want to waste any more time. Sometimes in life, you have to know exactly what you want, then go out and seek it.

And by May’s end, I knew he possessed the qualities and values that I was looking for. “He’s the one” I thought... “Now I just have to be patient and let him catch up to me.” 😊

Perfection does not exist in relationships, but there’s beauty in the effort to stay united. And this by far has been my most treasured investment of time.❤️

Have you ever noticed that when you start setting boundaries, there are always a few who keep nudging, pushing, and testing those limits? These are the ones who have been coasting comfortably on your lack of boundaries.

Remember, every time someone tests your boundaries, they’re giving you a chance to reaffirm what you stand for. Don’t shy away from this! Standing firm reminds them—and more importantly, yourself—that your needs and respect are non-negotiable. 🚫

It’s more than self-care; it’s a declaration of your value. So, hold your ground. Those who truly value you will adjust their sails and respect the lines you draw. 🚧

Forgiveness is a bridge to inner peace 🕊️, built not on the words you hear, but on the acceptance you offer to the silence. It’s about acknowledging the apology that will never be spoken, understanding that some closures come not from others, but from within us.

Not only is it a powerful act of self-love but a way to release the weight of resentment and open your heart to healing and growth. Choose forgiveness, not for them, but for ourselves, because in this act of grace, we find the freedom to move forward with lighter hearts and clearer minds.