Coaching with Pippa

Being your best self isn’t about winning every pitch, having a chunky income, inspiring your team on the daily, presenting yourself with rock star confidence..

Being your best self is about leveraging your strengths, working on your weaknesses, having the courage to be authentic, speaking up when you don’t agree, treating people as you want to be treated, still showing up even when you’re having an off day, surrounding yourself with people who support you, committing to always doing the right thing, taking time to rest, learning from failure, making room in your life for fun…Then the rest will come.

It starts with you.

Thanks to coronavirus, I’ve waited THREE YEARS to see my sister 😭

Despite flying in through the biggest storm we’ve had in 30 years, she’s arrived from Australia for a much needed visit 🇦🇺 🇬🇧 💕

So I’m signing out of work socials for a few days to spend some precious time with her; time for belly laughing, chilling & reconnecting (& perhaps the odd vino 😜) ♥️

See you on the other side 💃🏼

It’s not always easy taking action but it’s the most effective way in helping you realise you’re brilliant, resourceful and have everything you need already right there within you 💫

Its such a frustrating feeling when you know you want to be more, do more, have more, and yet things keep getting in the way that prevent it from becoming a reality.

Yes of course we know that when we reach for the cake that it's not conducive to that healthy goal we had set ourselves, but there's a lot less obvious ways we self sabotage our success.

👉🏻 You have given yourself a label that you're always late, so you find things to do that then make you late
👉🏻 You know that you have a great idea at work but then you somehow kill it
👉🏻 You desperately disagree with a decision in a meeting that will affect you and your team and yet you let it go ahead
👉🏻 You want that new job you're more than qualified for but you somehow mess up the interview

You may not even know that you are sabotaging yourself most the time. That's because there are likely to be deep issues of inadequacy running in the background and a feeling that you don't deserve it. The sub-conscious part of your brain knows all this of course and that's why it drives your behaviour to mess it up which is at odds with what your conscious brain wants. But also know that the beliefs your sub-conscious brain holds dear are made up of impressions it has interpreted at some point, not necessarily facts.

Try this:

🌱 Be really aware of your behaviours, tune right in to yourself with some introspection
🌱 Pause and challenge why you are choosing a certain path
🌱 Start to understand what is driving this behaviour, what story lays underneath it
🌱 Once you identify the sub-conscious chat, how can you reframe this to something more truthful?
🌱 What other options are available to you that would support your goals?
🌱 Celebrate yourself for taking action that supports you not sabotages you

You deserve everything you desire. It’s within your power to take control and create your success 💥

Do you ever find yourself putting your beliefs and needs to the side not only to do as others please but specifically to avoid conflict?

Not as popular as the term ‘People Pleasing’ (but similar) the term ‘Fawning’ has a fundamental difference, and that’s to please others purely to avoid CONFLICT.

👉🏻 You don’t want to disagree with a point your colleague makes in the meeting because it will end in a heated debate

👉🏻 You freely go along with a business decision even though it grates on your values

👉🏻 You say yes to going out for a night because your partner wants to even though you just want Netflix

👉🏻 You tell the waitress when asked that the meal was delicious even though it tasted like crap (and you still leave a good tip)

👉🏻 You accept the poor pay award even though you feel totally insulted because you don’t want to ‘get into it’ with your boss

The output of fawning is not just doing and accepting stuff you don’t want but it makes you feel angry, shameful and guilty. You know you have let yourself down and yet you know you will do it time and again.

Breaking free of fawning means standing in your personal power; leveraging your values to breed courage, having the self worth to honour your beliefs despite the uncomfortable nature of the conversation.

Fawning is a feature in my new program LIVE & LEAD; 6 steps to overcoming imposter syndrome.

To register your interest go to https://www.pippasavory.com/wait-list

I am very excited to be putting this out there 💥

I’m super busy putting this brand new on demand course together using everything I have learned from my own experiences and knowing what works for my 1:1 clients.

As well as it being on demand so you can work through it at your own pace, you also get full access to my membership; Live & Lead Community & Accountability POD. We meet on zoom twice weekly for accountability and hold monthly group coaching and energy clearing sessions. Some may say it’s the secret sauce to real progress & success 😉

This program is years in the making, it’s going to be epic and that’s because finally feeling enough in your work is life changing 🤍

To simply register your interest go to

https://www.pippasavory.com/wait-list

Pippa

There's such a friction between feeling ambitious and continuing to create success for yourself vs that voice in your head that says ‘Who the hell are you to be doing this? You're not special. You don't deserve this success'.

Yuk, it's a pit of the stomach feeling because you just want to enjoy your achievements and bask in the sunlight of success. And why on earth shouldn't you?

Next time that pesky saboteur pops up and tells you that you should just give up and that you're better off accepting a lesser role in life, something that will be 'more appropriate for you', then try this:

👉🏻 Acknowledge the voice is there (but view it as a third party so you don't give it too much attention)
👉🏻 Recalibrate your sympathetic nervous system by breathing in/out deeply a few times
👉🏻 Challenge the unhelpful thought - how true actually is it? What evidence is there to support it?
👉🏻 Choose a different more empowering (and truthful) thought to replace it with

Bye bye inner critic 👋🏻 hello you powerhouse 💥